- 11 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
None of your reasons are really striking me as reasons as to have a baby. It sounds like you need something to do, now that it’s 2 months post-wedding and you’re antsy. You’re bored, and like most women, babies sound like a good option! The next step, naturally, right? You haven’t even finished college yet, and once the baby comes, you likely will have so much on your plate your education will go to the wayside. You might go back in a few years.
All your reasons sound like tangible justifications. You sound like you’re trying to convince yourself about the baby by things like jobs, money, independence, etc. When none of it really sounds like good enough reasons to me. Talk to your husband and see what he says…because logically, financially, etc, it sounds like “bad timing” to me, but i’m overly practical.
I’d wait until your education is finished. That’s only 2 more years. You’ll be 23, and 23 is still a young mother. Plus, you want your husband to have a job. A real, steady, full time job. He’s going to be a vet tech, which is great, but there are lots of vet techs out there…wait until an offer’s in hand! Security is everything.
You already live with family, which makes a lot of sense b/c of traditions and where you live, but do you really want to depend on them for everything?? I mean, every single little thing? What if you have no income and a baby? Because you will if you and your husband aren’t able to take care of a baby all by yourself, financially. It’s nice to have the help of family living in house, but don’t use it as a reason to try to pile too many things on your plate at once.