Post # 1
I’ve been through a lot lately. Life was never easy for me, and I’m finally starting to come to the realization that I was emotionally abused as a child. I’m glad I got out when I did, found the support I have, and am marrying someone who builds me up daily and makes me feel like something I never felt at home (there I felt abandoned, like a black sheep, etc).
Yesterday, things seemed to really hit me, and I began looking up signs of emotional abuse online–of which my parents seemed to fill many.
I can’t help but feeling like now I want to reach out, to help give back to those who are struggling, use my story of getting out and that it doesn’t just have to be physical hitting, it can be words that cut deeper than knives.
Is anyone involved in community efforts with women’s shelters or deals with this kind of thing in general? I just think I didn’t go through all of that for nothing, ya know.
Post # 3
It’s great that you feel that way, but I am so sorry about your past. It’s a great thing to be able to share that with others, to maybe offer them some comfort. I would definitely look into volunteering. I volunteer for a few charities that mean a lot to me, and it makes me feel great, and hopefully makes a difference.
Post # 4
@SleepingWithNuns: My FI’s the same and we’re looking at heading to church, not because we’re church-y people but because they’re usually involved in shelters and organisations like that. See if they can point you in the direction towards a shelter or community group. Look online, most towns or communities have websites, there might be a list of groups there.
Apart from that, have you thought about counselling as a career? It wouldn’t even have to be the heavy stuff you could do counselling at primary schools etc.
Post # 5
@Misfit: I have thought about it, but I think my primary interest is English, so unless I’m willing to double major (which is possible) then I’m not sure that’s possible.
But I really like the idea. I thought about it in the past, too.
Post # 6
You could always just go around to any local soup kitchens/shelters, etc and inquire about volunteering on a semi-regular basis? Worth a shot. Or, if you have a YMCA in your area, they could maybe provide you with some leads to BigBrother/BigSister type programs.
Post # 7
It’s great that you are taking something horrible that you had to deal with and turn it into something that can help other people. If you are going to school most schools have a lot of charities they help out with. I go to school in a really tiny town and I volunteer at the schools center for abused women and children. I am sure your school has something like that!
Post # 8
@SleepingWithNuns: Usually women’s shelters are happy to have more volunteers – you can find organizations on volunteermatch.org. You will likely have to go through a 40 hour training for a women’s shelter. If you are going to be in the same place for at least a year, you could also do CASA – court appointed special advocates; they spend time with and advocate for kids in the foster care system.