(Closed) More ring talk from him– need input from Bees!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have read your other thread.  Maybe my experience will help?

SO started asking me about rings and sending me pictures asking if I liked that or not in Fall 2011 (2 years after we started dating).  I got a little excited but then we talkedd about it and he said he wasn’t ready.  Subject dropped.

Fall 2012, he started asking me questions again, even sent me to go find out my ring size.  It became at least a weekly conversation.  I thought for sure he was thinking of a holiday proposal… holidays came and went with nothing.

In December, we finally sat down and I had a real conversation with him, not just dreaming about rings.  I told him I wanted to be engaged by June and then I completely dropped things.

It wasn’t until the end of February that he surprised me by taking me ring shopping to look at what kind of setting I’d like.  This is 1.5 years after the first time he took an interest in rings.

And this time it feels way different, I’m sure he has bought the ring, there’s no real guessing.

I’m not saying it will take your guy that long, just sharing my experience.  Guys plan WAY in advance.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Creiddylad:  No you are not cuckoo… I was almost sure it would happen on our Mexico vacation at Thanksgiving!  He even went on and on about how it was the first romantic vacation we are taking together etc…

I’m hoping for this weekend, but it has been a long wait & who knows!!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Creiddylad:  Maybe he is going to do it and is just trying to throw you off the scent so to speak?  I dunno, but I feel like my guy is trying to do that lately…

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Creiddylad:  I kind of realized halfway through our Mexico trip that it definitely wasn’t going to happen.  While we did have some romantic time, most of the time we spent partying and hanging out with the friends we made at the pool during the day…

Funny part was all our new friends made fun of my SO for not “locking me down” yet.

I think you need to enjoy the vacation and act/convince yourself it’s definitely not going to happen.  Our guys like to see us happy and loving them and loving life.  That’s the girl they want to marry.  I have to remind myself sometimes that the desperate/annoyed waiting look is pretty unattractive to him.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s obviously hard to tell e because we don’t know your SO, but it sounds to me like he’s planning a purchase and got a bit right fright! I think not every guy takes mon the to choose/buy/propose, some kind of decide to go for it a that’s that, you know? So while I do think you should enjoy your vacation for what it is – quality time together and a chance to relax – it’s not impossible that he’ll surprise you! 

Good luck and have a great time!

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

Try and convince yourself that it isn’t going to happen on your vacation.  You will save yourself the feeling of disappointment.  Have a great time!!

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