(Closed) I think I'm a horrible person for this…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I know what you mean. Fiance and I were dating for 7.5 years until he finally proposed. It does suck watching everyone else become engaged but it will happen. I had to sit my Fiance down and have a serious convo about whether or not marriage was what he wanted. I kinda sorta gave him a timeline for peace of mind and for my sanity. 


I understand what you mean when you say he doesn’t want to hear about it. I felt like if anyone said the words “ring”, “wedding”, “propose” or “engagement”, my Fiance would act weird. 


Dont feel discouraged but if it makes you feel better, talk to him about it when you know he will be most willing to listen And the pressure is off. 


Post # 4
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You can’t control your feelings — you’re not a horrible person for experiencing a twinge of disappointment when they announced their news.

However, you can control your reaction to the news. I wouldn’t use this information to try to pressure your boyfriend. If you’re really feeling like you want to vent in person, call up a close girlfriend to go shopping or on a coffee date.

All of us here in the hive know it’s hard to wait, but pressuring your boyfriend before he’s ready is just going to lead to hurt feelings and a strain on your relationship.

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