@buckeyebride0906: It is all too expensive, isn’t it! And I’m actually really young as well, so everyone just looks at me like I’m insane or something. I don’t understand where people come off acting like their rudeness is okay. =// GIRL let me tell you; I always wanted to elope, but he wanted a big wedding and this small affair is our compromise. He has a really large family, but mine has always been small even before half of them fell off the face of the earth and I never liked being the center of attention. I know he has said now that if he could change his past mind, we would have definitely eloped. It has been hardly anything but drama!
@Billierye: I have really thought about cutting back on their hair/makeup. I would even be 100% willing to do my own makeup, as I think I even did a better job than the pro. =/ And I don’t wear makeup daily, not even monthly sometimes. But I absolutely would have to get someone to do my hair LOL. I am a failure at that it seems. =( Is WW working for you, if you don’t mind my asking? We have bought some turquoise mason jars and such; our wedding is definitely rustic/country but not…all jeans, cowboy boots, hay bales. So somewhere in the middle of everything it seems. Do you think it would be too plain to just do the small centerpieces? My main issue here lately has been I found out just how wretched the chairs are-I mean really, dark brown metal folding chairs with dark gray cushions? really.- and the tables are plastic folding ones but they are banquet size-30″ by 6′- so I am really confused and torn on how to decorate them. I am willing to hear ALL advice on that!
@Allyg: Thank you; that is the only thing that has kept me together! He really is my rock, as cliche as that is.
@ScubaSiren: Thank you for your condolences. On his side, he has his mom, stepdad, brother, uncle, aunt, 2 cousins, step-sister and her husband…and maybe a few step-nephews and 2nd cousins, even though I, from day one, wanted no kids there but we are still in negotiations about that haha. (AKA he doesnt want them there either but with half his family trying to invite themselves already, he doesnt want anymore drama, especially with his mom!) It is a small wedding, with 30 people or so coming, not including FI and I but including everyone else. I would absolutely love to elope but sadly, this is our compromise as his family was so large, he always wanted a big wedding. And I’ve already bought my dress and everything =/ The worst thing about all of this is that we ARE throwing a party when we get back that ALL family is invited to and they are still getting miffed. I just dont get it. -giggles- Bread definitely makes me feel better. Stupid sugar addiction!
And as far as the learning curve-believe me; I have absolutely learned who is really there for me.
@melonseeds: Haha, my life really is just insanity sometimes. We can definitely afford the house and everything, and we could afford a bigger wedding…but at the same time, I am so sick of bending over backwards for people who don’t even know how to spell my name, let alone spend more money on this wedding for those same folks. I explained that to my FI that way and he agreed 100%. I hadn’t thought about telling my maids that but wow, that would be so simple. I have given them full reign over their dress style, just gave them a color, and even sent them coupons and everything when they go on sale but they are broke as sin and I just…don’t know what to do about it. We got engaged on May 24 of this past year and I knew my colors about two months later and told them about it. One of them even went with me dress shopping initially. I don’t know what to do about them at all. We actually get a cabin for the night/whole weekend (the venue was an absolute STEAL-we get the keys Friday morning, give them back on Sunday night, and it includes the teeny chapel, the reception building, and a cabin…all by a lake on a WONDERFUL property chock-full of roses and other blooming flowers) so no need for a hotel and we have no one from out of town, so that does make things a LITTLE simpler. We did cancel the original baker I liked and the cake tasting we have this time is with someone new, who appears to be a lot cheaper. We are only buying a cutting cake for FI and I and everyone else will have cupcakes (being gifted to us), muffins, or pie pops (that I’m making :D). I have been in the process of contacting new caterers. It is such a hard process though. I never expected to have this much drama with my wedding, of all things. I was in for a surprise, for sure.
You seriously sound like my FI about it never being worth it to stress about money. Sad thing is, I’m not even sure there will be any happy people there but me and him. Even more reason for us to elope, I swear. -.- Stupid compromise. -kicks FI-
A corset dress is one of the things that I have always wanted, but is definitely not necessary. The dress doesn’t fit as of now, but my first alterations appointment is in March.
@cutiebomb7789: Thank you for your condolences. Her death has made everything 100x worse to deal with. Especially in the way that she died, for sure. I am thinking about finding a new counselor. The only issue with that is that most of them don’t see patients until 9am or so and never on weekends, and I have to be at work M-F, which is an hour away from my home, at 9am. We don’t have a pastor yet as we’re still church-shopping but we should find one of those soon!
I totally understand a wedding being one day, and that is why I want it to be so much smaller than everyone else seems to demand it to be. That is so true. FI really wants me to calm down. I did take a break from wedding planning to do atkins planning but I think that just made everything worse LOL. I just want at least ME to look pretty on my big day though. Even if my DIY stuff looks like a sixth grader did it (referencing another bee earlier today LOL). I am indeed going to PM you and demand you help me find linens that will cover those horrid tables and chairs haha! 😀