(Closed) I think I’m being “phased out”….

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

eek.

kind of sounds like ‘or not’ to me.

she’s probably butthurt that you couldn’t offer her a handout when she needed help. that or she’s embarrassed that she poured her heart out to you and got what she felt to be an unsympathetic reply.

either way, sucks 🙁

Post # 4
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

That sucks a lot. Maybe you could talk to the mutual friend to determine what’s going on? 

Post # 5
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow. She just seems to be asking very immature.  I know you’re friends. But if a “friend” isn’t understanding, and blows you off just like that and deletes your posts, etc, idk….

 

Doesn’t seem like a good friend to me. I say that you’re better off.

 

I sound like a wonderful friend to me.  Don’t take it to harshly.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

She might be mad about it.  But honestly, moving in with a newlywed couple is kind of….creepy, let alone inconsiderate.  I hope she matures up fast, but then again, no answer is an answer.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sounds like someone you don’t want to be friends with. It’s really rude to ask to move in with a friend unless you have to. Not to mention being so passive agressive.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry for that situation.  I don’t think that she has any right to be mad at you for not letting her live with you without paying any expenses.  It doesn’t really sound like she is a good person to treat you like that over that simple of a thing.  You’re better off without her!

Post # 10
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I can’t believe she said that to you about your brother. I’m sitting here reading it with wide eyes, like OMG!!  I hope she grows up a bit and can become a good friend. And if you can give her a second chance than she is lucky!!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My mouth just dropped open….she said it was a good thing your brother passed? OMG, what a peice of work.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

She’s probably mad. I think you honestly did her a favor by not letting her stay with you. She needs to grow up & see what she’s made of! It’s time to sink or swim 🙂 Plus you & your DH are newlyweds! Anyone see “You, Me & Dupree”? Awwwwkward!

I’ve gone through a friend overhaul this past year myself. There were a few friends that made me wondered if we didn’t grow up together, would we really be friends?? If not, they got the boot. Harsh, but I strongly believe in surrounding myself with people who are uplifting & inspiring! The things she said about your brother & the way she has behaved is not the type of friend you need. I would count this as a blessing in disguise… especially if your husband & family agree.

edit: I was quoting the episode where Monica finds out that Phoebe tried to cut her out!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

From the things you’ve written that she has said and done in the past, I’m thinking that she’s just a very selfish and insincere person, and maybe she just used to be better at hiding it than she is nowdays! I cannot believe she ever said that to you about your brother passing away! What a nasty, thoughtless and hateful thing to say to you! Before I read your second post, I was going to say that apparently she’s ticked off at you for not letting her leech off of you for as long as she needs, which I can’t believe she would just ask you if she could live with you free and clear in the first place. Now that I read your second post and what kind of person she sounds like, it doesn’t really surprise me! You were more than gracious enough to offer her to stay for the weekend, and she is too self-centered to see the big picture (as in, your husband currently being unemployed and you guys not being financially able to support anyone else right now) so IMO you are better off not having her as a “friend”. If she were truly a friend, she wouldn’t be so immature about it, playing facebook games and deleting your comments and such. That’s ridiculous! Regardless of whether you could let her stay or not, she should have at least offered that she could pay you back in a couple months when she gets back on her feet or whatever, but she didn’t even do that! Ugh… I know this post is rambling but I absolutely hate “friends” who turn out not to be friends at all. I’ve experienced that a lot and it is a HUGE dissapointment. Anyways, I know it would help you to be able to talk to her, so you could at least get some closure on things and know what’s going on. I hope it all works out!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We *may* have the same problem and I *may* consider myself the 7th friend! lol

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