(Closed) I think I'm done TTC.

• eecuadrado
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: March 2014

• whybee
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: April 2014

Do whatever tests you need to get done to put your mind at ease. Chances are, they’ll all come back clear. Even f they don’t, there are plenty of ways that science can help. So think about what you know. You KNOW it can take one, even two years for a PERFECTLY HEALTHY couple to conceive. You KNOW there are tons of women with lovely, bouncing babies who took that amount of time to get there. And, in the meantime, you KNOW there are plenty of us out there going through the exact same sh!t with you 🙂

*HUGS* xx

• whybee
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: April 2014

Double post, argh!

• This reply was modified 6 years ago by  whybee.

• newbabybee
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014

When TTC it’s important to remember it can take up to 12 months to get pregnant and that’s considered normal. Anything beyond 12+ months can warrant a visit to the Dr. I think it’s important not to give up but if you’re mentally stressed and have gotten to the point where you feel you need to give up, it might be time for a break. If you go into a Dr. with a less than optimistic attitude they may not feel your ready to be a mom. 

• alove31
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

• Andthepupmakes3
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: March 2014

• orchidblooms
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014 - NH

• MrsArchitect
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: December 2012

Definitely going away will help, we’ve just taken 1week tropical vacation doing NOTHING except relax, cruise, and eat, which was great. It definitely helped, as with our first MMC i took 2 days off and was back to work and tearing up constantly all because i wanted to finish our project deadline, not a good idea at the time. 

We’ve also just had our year end break which helps too (i have no more leave now lol) and these holidays ive just been indulging in wee shopping splurges that i would otherwise have deprived myself of to save money.

Ive even managed to go to a lunch with DH and THREE of our friends and their 3 new babies, as i was hiding from them before but i thought “you know what? We shouldnt punish ourselves for whats happened and being with friends and their babies and me being happy for them (we’ve decided theres no comparisons to our life), i found it helped me to see them and just be happy for them when i was ready to. 

I really hope you enjoy your holiday! we’ve created a holiday ‘bucket’ list for this year to keep us occupied in between. My dream is to go back to tahiti and do the scariest thing, snorkelling in 40m deep sea outside the reef with whales! freaks me out thinking of it

• mrsgroomzilla
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: January 2014

I’m sorry you’re having a tough time, ive been TTC for ~11 months with no luck and I feel your frustration. As hard as it can be it can be really helpful to focus on the good that’s come from your journey so far – for me TTC meant eating better and exercising, taking vitamins (that have been great for my hair, nails and energy), getting to know and understand my body better, more sexy time with DH – all good things. At the end of the month no matter what you can be proud of the positive changes you’ve made in your lives, changes that would be positive even if your goal weren’t TTC.

If you know you’re ovulating it will probably help with stress to stop temping and OPKs, waiting until the day after my period should be due had also really helped lower stress for me. 

• 4littlekitties
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

My acupuncturist is big on telling me not to stress so much, and I feel like telling him to go fuck himself. So far, my filter’s been working. We’re both basically 39, so we don’t have tons of time for rest cycles. If we could afford it, if it wasn’t as risky as any other pregnancy and it was legal in our state, a gestational carrier, where it’s my egg & his sperm and she has no rights to the baby, is sounding better and better.(my cousin did this with her twins.) People who don’t get it just don’t get it, and. They have a hard time understanding why they don’t get it. I think they mean well, but it just adds another layer of TTC crap to have to deal with. I ended up explaining to my boss that we’ve lost four *babies* before she really became supportive, rather than trying to be supportive in a way that was really dismissive. I’m jealous of the people who don’t get it.

ETA: one difference on this thread, where it’s mostly other people who have/ate strugglin, is that not many people are all sunshine and rainbows, telling you to “just hang on!” The ones that have have actually gone through it. I’ve googled how to know when to stop, and in some threads on other sites, someone will say they’re quitting and every response tells them not to. I think everyone here knows it’s a personal  decision, and there’s no judgement if you or anyone else decides to stop trying. 

• MrsBaldEagle
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013

• yellowtulip8
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: June 2013

• RoseandShine
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014

OP-  I agree with everyone, don’t give up now!  Even if you stop trying, I assume you wouldn’t be protecting?  That TWW will still be haunting you every single cycle, but if you truly feel you need a to stop TTC, just recognize it doesn’t mean its the end of the road for you, take the mental break you need and then start over.  I hope it happens for you soon.  Stay strong!