- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Have you ever tried changing your diet? Some people think its “Drastic” but also other Fertilty treatments are drastic as well. I know for me, I dont get my period unless I gave up gluten and dairy. So myself, I know diet has something to do with it. My friends best friend had been TTC concieve about 16 months and had unexplained fertility as well, saw a naturopath and changed her diet; antibiotic free chicken, no sugar no gluten or dairy and did a little accupuncture, and 2.5-3 monts later, she was pregnant. I know it may seem drastic but sometimes it does help!
I see you are in Ontario, are you close to Toronto? I see an amazing fertility naturopath that see’s people from all walks of fertility- they are specialized in it and honeslty, have so much info! I’ve only been a few times but they are really good. White Lotus Clinic they are called – off of shepard and younge i believe!
Also, have you had your thyroid tested? Your hormonal levels can be normal but if your thyroid is off, that can actually affect your fertility as well! So I woulde have your free t3, free t4, t3, t4, TSH and anti-Tg TGB or TPO antibodies tested as my thyroid looked fine but it wasnt until they tested for the antibodies that they found out I have hashimotos disease which affects fertility.
So good luck and maybe try different avenues if what you have been doing isnt working, there are some alternative treatments, change of diets, change of scenary and some more tests may help!
While PP is way off the mark in implying that it’s at all okay for a doctor to decide that a pessimist can’t be a mommy, it is absolutely true that 9 months/cycles is perfectly within normal, even for couples without complications. I am sure 9 months seems like an eternity right now, but average cycles to conceive is around 7 for couples actively trying. There is absolutely still hope of conceiving, and even reason to hope that there is nothing abnormal going on with either of you. I know the feeling of seeing what you want most just fall into someone’s lap, and it sucks, and bad! And it especially sucks in cases like this, when you are somewhat not in charge of fate. You can’t study harder, or work harder, or hope harder, and that’s frustrating, but I would maybe take a break before you consider stopping entirely
@sara_tiara It took a couple of people I know 1.5 – 2 years to conceive naturally, and another girl I know 5 years!!
Don’t give up so fast, 9 months really isn’t that long. I’m 6 months in TTC now and I’m nowhere near giving up – when it happens, it happens.
I admire the women on here who have posted that they’ve had multiple miscarriages and been trying for 3+ years with no real success.. that must be really hard.
But in your position I think you should really just look forward to your vacation and trust that when it happens, it happens 🙂 There’s no point being defeatist when you have no reason to be defeatist at this point.
DH and I have only been trying 6 months but it already feels like an eternity! I just thought it would be so much easier than it is… Now I feel like an idiot for believing that! This cycle I started a “screw it” approach and threw out all my charts and OPK’s. I’m tired of thinking about it all the time! DH’s best friend just told us today that he and his wife are pregnant (well, he’s not actually pregnant but you know what I mean…) and they weren’t even trying. Ugh. Although my pregnant coworker just told me yesterday that they had been trying for 8 YEARS!!!! She finally accepted that she would never be a mother and bam baby on the way. I just can’t even imagine!
AFM, I posted in the 1+ TTC thread that I bought an inflatable punching bag to help vent my frustrations. It’s seriously helped my moods.
I was watching a video on youtube the other day about pregnancy faq and something the girl on the video (from the small things blog) said really stuck with me. Someone asked her a question about eating healthy during her pregnancy and she said that since it took them so long to conceive (14 mo.) she felt that when it did actually happen it made her realize how little control she had over everything. For me, that just summed everything up, you know? You work hard your whole life, get good grades in school, get the job you want, don’t settle in a relationship and finally marry an awesome guy.. Then when it comes to something you so want and need to validate your sense of self, you just have no control. We are taught our whole lives that if we just work hard enough at something we can get it but the biggest thing worked out to be the hardest.
Also another thing that I didn’t really realize at the time was that I had stopped really spending time with friends – I’m talking loose ties, friends that I would only see once a month. I felt that I couldn’t really talk about what was going on front and center and even when I did talk to people that knew about it nothing could be said to help the situation. So, it can be really isolating. I’m not even going to try to give you advice but maybe share my experiences will help you see that you are not alone. Nine months is a LONG TIME.
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