Post # 1
I’m not trying to pat myself on the back here or anything but I must say that I’ve been a really easygoing bride with basically no expectations of the girls I’ve asked to stand with me in our wedding except to be there. I didn’t want any bridal showers, bachelorette parties, engagement parties, I paid for, and delivered the bridesmaids dresses to the girls (who incidentally live in 3 different states.) I have no requirements for hair/makeup/jewelry. The most important thing to me is that they are just there to stand with me when I get married. That’s it!
So the wedding date has been set for about 9 months. I asked my girls to be in the wedding about 6 months ago. I find out a few weeks ago that one of my bridesmaids has booked a vacation to Peru and her flight does not return until the day of the rehearsal. 6 hours before the rehearsal to be exact. That’s of course assuming there are no delays or cancellations. I’ve been to Peru before – it’s not uncommon for busses/trains/planes to be delayed or cancelled.
I really think that’s pushing it. It’s already booked and paid for and I really don’t see any reason to point out that this is cutting it pretty close – she’s an adult – she knows how to tell time and count the hours between noon (when her flight is supposed to land) and 6pm (when the rehearsal dinner starts. She was asking if there was anything she could do to help w/ the last minute wedding planning and i just said “All I need you to do is be there.”
I think that gets the point across – and I hope she has a backup plan in case something happens.
Nothing is going to ruin the day, not even if she doesn’t make it.
Post # 3
Whew! That is cutting it close. Yes…that would make me uneasy too, but I think you need to trust her and hope for the best. There really isn’t much else to do since it is paid for and booked already!
P.S. It does sound like you are a pretty easy-going bride, so don’t stress! Your day will be wonderful 🙂
Post # 4
Meh, not a big deal-yeah, she’s cutting it close, but chances are that was the best price or only flight, also. She’s supposed to arrive the morning of the rehearsal. Even if she gets in that night, the rehearsal is not a biggee. Our best man missed ours because he had to work and it was totally fine. People know how to walk down the aisle in a wedding. The chance of her missing the entire wedding is pretty small. If you didn’t ask her to anything but be there that day, i don’t think you should too upset about it since she’s planning on arriving.
Post # 5
If she misses the rehearsal (or is a bit late) it’s not the end of the world. One of the other BMs can explain to her what’s going to happen, what order you’re going to do things in, etc. It’s not a super complicated job. If she were flying in 6 hours before your wedding, THEN I would be mad!
It sucks that she planned a vacation during that time, but what can you do right?!
Post # 6
Yeah, it’s not the end of the world if she misses the rehearsal. I don’t have her doing any readings or anything during the ceremony anyway and Im sure she can handle the walking part. She is the only one giving a speech at the reception – I’ve already asked one of the other bridesmaids to think about a speech in case she doesn’t make it.
Post # 7
That’s cutting it close, but oh well.
My Fiance was the best man in a wedding last summer, and couldn’t get a flight home until AFTER the rehearsal. Didn’t stress anybody out (at least not that they said!)
Post # 8
It’s not ideal, but like you said it’s been paid for already so there’s no changing it. I think you’re being great about it, especially making plans for a back-up speech in case she can’t make it.
Wish some of the brides that I’ve stood up with were as nice as you!
Post # 9
If it’s any consolation, I have 2 BMs and 1 Groomsmen missing our rehearsal and dinner completely. I’m not happy about it, but it’s really not a huge deal. I mildly complained to my Fiance about it our flakey friends (and even wrote a post about it here on WB), but I got over it pretty fast. As long as your friend is there for the actual wedding… that’s the most important part!
Post # 10
Wow, that is stressful. I can’t believe how often people don’t fully honor their responsabilities. Good for you for handling it so well! I hope things go well.
Post # 11
As a bridesmaid I missed a rehearsal once because I had to fly cross-country for the wedding and my flight the night before the rehearsal was cancelled. I made it on to a flight the next day and arrived just in time for the rehearsal dinner. I think I was more stressed about missing the rehearsal than the bride was. But everything was totally fine. If she does miss the rehearsal, just ask another bridesmaid to pay extra attention and to fill in her in on what she missed. Since she’s not doing any readings or anything, likely that will just mean telling her “walk down the aisle behind so-and-so.” And hey, maybe she’ll bring you a great souvenir from Peru!
Post # 12
Looks like you’re taking everything in stride! Good for you! And, it looks like she’s making her best effort to be there. Things happen, so just go with the flow. Everyone else is right, it’s not the end of the world if she misses the rehearsal. Even though you’ve been easy going, which is really nice for your gal pals, you’ve set the tone and now they are probably following suite. Everything will work out!
Post # 13
I can understand how this would make you uneasy. My step sister is a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding and while back she was talking about going on a trip to the UK – fine, but was planning on getting back into the country on the 11th when my wedding is on the 13th…. cutting it fine! I wasn’t too concerned about delayed flights or anything but I WAS concerned about jetlag. A 23 hr flight from the UK to Australia is a big deal, and when I got back I was jetlagged for 2 days afterwards. Thankfully she decided not to go, so I don’t have to freak out (internally so as to avoid being a bridezilla – LOL) about it but I can understand why you’d be a bit edgy…