(Closed) I think I'm forcing him, need to be told if it's okay or not.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

How does he really feel about it? He might be telling you what you want to hear because you’re asking him point blank. Does he make side comments? Does he help out? Does he seem excited about it? It’s hard to help you because it doesn’t seem like enough information. And if you’re questioning a wedding that’s 3 months away, and haven’t planned anything, then it sounds like it needs to be postponed…

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Why do you think you’ve forced him? And, if you are really going to get married in August, you need to get planning. 2 months is enough time to pull together a courthouse/ restaurant wedding, but barely.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We need more info.  Did he propose?  Did you?  How/when did you get engaged?

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

+1 for more information.

How do you think you forced him? Did you give him some sort of ultimatum? 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

What did you do that you now feel was forcing him?

I think you need to have a real talk about this. Not a casual “You still feeling good about this babe?” But a sit down sort of talk. Explain how you’re feeling, why you feel the way you do, and encourage him to share as well. Tell him you need him to say no now if he’s going to, for the sake of your relationship. Maybe say that if he is all-in, then you’ll begin planning this weekend. That gives him a few days to think it over privately.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

You gave information about your family’s health issues (sorry to hear about this), but didn’t give us any information on your relationship or why you think you’re forcing him. More info please.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

It may be that your boyfriend does want to marry you, but you feel the way you do because you’re giving him no choice to express that. Have you taken control of everything? Did you propose? Did he? Did you pick the date? It’s less than three months away. Are you rushing into it? What’s wrong with 2017?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I don’t understand, has he said something to make you think he doesn’t want to marry you?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

treegirl:  TALK TO THE MAN YOU’RE ABOUT TO MARRY! That’s the only way you’ll know for sure if he’s feeling pressured or not.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

treegirl:  I’m not trying to be harsh, but it sounds like you don’t even know him. I would be able to tell if my Fiance had to do something he doesn’t want to do, even if other people don’t notice and if he’s lying through his teeth. I know my Fiance inside and out, he can’t hide anything from me. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

monsterly:  I am with her. My Fiance can’t lie to me even if he wanted to. I know him inside and out and I know when he smiles fake and not.

If it feels wrong, don’t do it?

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