(Closed) I think I’m getting lost in the details!!! Advice please!

posted 8 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think that list is totally fine. And in my opinion, a wedding is complete so long as the bride and groom are smiling and happy. Nobody is going to say “Oh, well they didn’t have a guestbook table but XYZ did!”. 

I think if you’re going to decorate all the tables then decorate all the tables. Including the gift table. 

Something to think about, what are you doing for escort cards (if you’re doing them at all?) and favours? Will these need to be on a table to be displayed? 

Post # 6
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The only time I ever think an escort card is actually really useful is if you’re having waiters come round with a plated dinner. Then you can have cards in different colours (or on different background papers) that point out if they’re meant to have a chicken/beef/fish/veg dinner. 

Post # 8
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Escort card/seating chart table, bar tables, buffet tables, busing tables for caterer, favor table


If you are having a cocktail hour you may want to have a few tall cocktail tables.

Post # 9
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t let the little details get to you. I thought I would do so many little details, but I now realize that it isn’t worth the stress!

I think your list is fine and really you can decorate those tables however you would like. The decorations can be simple or more complicated. It’s your wedding and your decision. 

I do think that escort cards are important so people know what table they are sitting at. If you have open seating, things might get complicated. Like your FI’s college friends sitting at a table that your grandparents should be at or a bunch or random people who don’t know each ending up a table. 

Putting favors on the tables is fine, but keep in mind that you don’t really need favors. We are not doing favors and I don’t think anyone is going to care.

My advice is make this wedding your own and don’t like ideas of what you should be doing or perfection stress you out.

Post # 11
5761 posts
Bee Keeper

You have a lot of time to figure out all the details,but it doesn’t hurt to make a list and decide what you want to do.

What will you do for your ceremony? Will it all be outside like the pictures?

We had a table for placecards as well as the guest book. I used just an ivory pintuck tablecloth and a vase of flowers on that table( which was also the toss bouquet).

On the cake table,all we used was the serving pieces, but had a box of fresh rose petals we left at home (walked out without them,so no big deal). We  also had some votive candles surrounding the cake, but moved them early on.

We had cocktail hour outside on the deck,so we had hi-top tables with tablecloths to the floor,tied in the middle with sashes. On top we had mosaic candle holders and scattered crystals and shells. We did the same for the larger outside round tables,but used larger bubble glass lanterns instead.

We had a dessert bar and also a mantel to decorate,so we used some overlays over the tablecloths and scattered candles,vases of flowers and manzanita branches with crystals.

At our venue I had to rent or buy just about everything,so we also needed 10 banquet sized tablecloths for food tables,and  one for the DJ table as well.

Once you work out your layout,you’ll have a better idea of what you need and for where.


Post # 12
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

The first thing I did when I saw your post was look at your wedding date- of course you’re feeling overwhelmed! Get used to that feeling, because it will pop up many times more.

About 10 months out is a tricky time. You’re just at the cusp of having to commit to venues, dinner style (buffet, plated, station), colors, dresses, etc. Of course, this means that there are lots of details. Try to keep an overarching theme in mind, it will help keep things on track.

For example, my wedding started as a “celebration of fall”, with a “elegant, but still laid back” feel. Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are brown, centerpieces feature dried oak leaves, and our venue is a mansion. We loved the combination of a rustic look combined with the ornate venue. Once you establish something you like, whether it be “beach”, “backyard”, “tropical”, and an overall “feel” of your wedding, like “casual”, “classic”, or “formal”, your details will fall into place.

For what it’s worth, I think that escort cards are important (they’re one of the few things I really thought was necessary). I think it’s better to think about groups that will mingle well and put them together rather than to let everyone just grab a seat. That doesn’t mean that I’m picking where everyone is exactly seated (just assigning tables)- seating charts are WAY too much work! 🙂

Good luck planning- your wedding will be beautiful! 

Post # 14
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

At our church I am displaying the wedding photos of our grandparents in neat vintagey frames.  I will then take them to the reception and will display them on the gift table.  Our venue will give us 2 tea lights per guest table which I thought might look cheap so I asked them to put them all on the cake table decorating it.  I am getting married in May 2011 as well and also feel overwhelmed by it all.  I made a list of EVERY little thing and when I have free time committ to getting something done or doing lots of research online so when its time to make decisions, it is easier.  Good Luck!

Post # 16
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m with you!  I’ve only got a less than 6 month engagement to work with!  SO I am stressed to the max!  I’m almost 2 months away and also freaking out and getting lost in the details. I really don’t have much advice for you as I’m in the same boat with less time.  I did have a bridal breakdown and my Fiance calmed me down and I’ve been better since (just a few days), but the stress is starting to creap back!  I also wish I could hire a wedding planner!

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