(Closed) I think i'm getting my hopes up for nothing…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

How long have you been together?

It’s not easy to gauge whether you are getting your hopes up for nothing, based on what you’ve said. All I can advise is that you set a timetable for yourself to exit the relationship if you do not have what you want by a given time. Allowing yourself to be on someone else’s timetable puts you at the eternal mercy of waiting. 

If your choice to leaves spurs him to propose, then good. It if doesn’t, good, because he probably wasn’t going to do it, but you will no longer be in a holding pattern.

There is the option of you proposing to him, as well.


Post # 5
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@PinkChopsticks:  He guesses it’s time he settle down? That doesn’t sound like someone wants to get married soon. I mean a lot can change within a year, but you have a son so I see why you don’t want to wait around for him. Not only do you need a commitment, but you need to know if he wants to stick around for a long time for your son’s sake. Your son doesn’t need a guy who will be there one year and gone the next. Have you sat down and actually discussed getting married and your ideal timeline with him? If you haven’t you need to do that ASAP.

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