Post # 1
Anyone else feel that way?
MY SO knows I want to get married. He has as of this year said he “guesses it’s time he settles down” several times, mentioned how a family member told him we would marry upon meeting me for the first time a year or two ago, planning vacations for next year, he loves my son a ton, said he will try harder to get in touch with his romantic side for me (he has been hurt before so it’s hard for him to be romantic and free with his words at times), his mother really likes me, tells me all the time how special i am, talks about us and we a lot, etc, etc ,etc. But all that to say, for some reason i don’t see him proposing. Am i being silly?
Post # 3
How long have you been together?
It’s not easy to gauge whether you are getting your hopes up for nothing, based on what you’ve said. All I can advise is that you set a timetable for yourself to exit the relationship if you do not have what you want by a given time. Allowing yourself to be on someone else’s timetable puts you at the eternal mercy of waiting.
If your choice to leaves spurs him to propose, then good. It if doesn’t, good, because he probably wasn’t going to do it, but you will no longer be in a holding pattern.
There is the option of you proposing to him, as well.
Post # 4
we have been together about 1.5-2 years i’d say. You are right about the time frame. If there is no proposal by him by the end of 2013 I plan on severing the relationship.
Post # 5
@PinkChopsticks: He guesses it’s time he settle down? That doesn’t sound like someone wants to get married soon. I mean a lot can change within a year, but you have a son so I see why you don’t want to wait around for him. Not only do you need a commitment, but you need to know if he wants to stick around for a long time for your son’s sake. Your son doesn’t need a guy who will be there one year and gone the next. Have you sat down and actually discussed getting married and your ideal timeline with him? If you haven’t you need to do that ASAP.