(Closed) I think i’m going to be excluded

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m confused.  Am I understanding from your linked post that you and your cousin are both getting married on the same day and yet you don’t think you’ll be her BM?

Post # 4
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I’m confused, too.
Previously, you were worried that GUESTS would have to choose which wedding to attend, because there would be no way to attend both, but now you’re upset that you might not be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding on your wedding day?

If a guest couldn’t make it to both ceremonies, how could the you?

 

Post # 5
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@KBsquared: I know you don’t want to go into a long drawn out explanation but, as written, your post is confusing. Unless you linked to the wrong thread. By your date, I see that you were married on August 7th of last year, and according to the thread you linked to, your cousin was as well. In that thread, you mentioned your cousin’s cousin who was to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man, but dropped out when she was asked to be in her cousins wedding. So did your cousin not get married on August 7th after all, or is this the cousin’s cousin we are speaking of?

Post # 7
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t push it yet. A lot of brides wait until the date is closer to ask their wedding party. I had 2 friends point blank ask me if they were going to in my wedding party and it was really awkward. Please don’t put her on the spot like that.

Post # 8
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So this is the cousin who ditched you to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in another wedding? Why would you even want to be in her wedding? Also how did everything turn out for you and the date stealing cousin?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@KBsquared: OK…I kind of figured it had to be cousin H but I wasn’t sure. Having said that, it’s possible that she just hasn’t thought about it. I know picking my BMs wasn’t really a top priority of mine b/c I knew I only had a small pool of “contenders” since my wedding is family and very close friends only. It could also be that she thinks you may say no since she dropped out of your wedding. Could you maybe get another family member to feel her out and see what she is thinking? 

Post # 10
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t put her on the spot. If she wants you to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man she will ask you.

Post # 11
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46336 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would be totally inappropriate for you to ask her if you are going to be in the wedding party. It is none of your business who she asks- family, or “temporary” friends.

Just be flattered that she is asking for your opinion.

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