- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Just like the title says, I think my relationship with my best friend is waning and I’m not even sure why. She is also my maid of honor and someone I have known for literally my whole life. If anyone has any advice on how to handle this, please help me out!
Some backstory: she and I have been close for literally decades. Honestly inseperable friends! I think we’ve fought maybe two or three times in all the years we’ve known each other. About three years ago, she moved several states away with her boyfriend (about 7 or 8 hours away if driving). We kept in touch with regular phone calls, Facebook, and visiting (since both of us work short weeks/flexible hours).
This all changed about a year ago. Suddenly, she barely wants to talk on the phone, and ignores my Facebook messages and emails. At first she’d say “oh I haven’t forgotten about writing you, I’ll do it tomorrow!” and then it’d take weeks. Lately she just ignores me completely though, and I know she’s online because she’ll be playing those Facebook games or gaming with her boyfriend on Steam.
We also went from many visits a year to ONE in the past year, and she balked at even doing that. It’s always the wrong time for me to go see her, or she’s “too busy” to come see me. Which is nonsense, because she works only three or four days per week and has lots of free time. She just wants to spend it on other stuff, which would be fine if she’d even hang out with me online now and again!
This is doubly hurting because I have no idea what has happened. We didn’t have a fight, and neither of us has had any major life changes lately. No new engagements, no babies, no breakups, no mental health changes, no job changes. It’s like she just lost interest in being my friend, and I am so sad because I just don’t understand why.
At this point I’m not even concerned about the wedding side of things because we don’t even talk, nevermind about the wedding. I don’t know what to do about it. I have always been a quiet, introverted kind of person, with a few very close friends instead of a wide circle of lots of acquaintances. But she was the one person who I’ve always counted as my best of best friends.
Oh, and here is the story’s twist: she is my sister.