- 4 years ago
I’ve been a long time reader without an account but now created one because I just needed to put this somewhere. There’s not much I can do about the situation, so I guess this is just some kind of rant.
My bf and I are together for 6 years now, living together for five and we know we want to get married within the next two years so he asked me to help him pick out a ring / tell him the things I don’t want. I don’t care that much about the details of the ring, only two things: I don’t want a light blue or pink stone. That’s it. (Please don’t be offended, I’ve seen plenty of beautiful light blue/pink e-rings on the bee, but I don’t like it for myself) He wrote that down and the note is still pinned to his computer monitor.
Months later I’m 90 % sure, that he got a light blue stone. (There are some obvious indications.) Why the heck did he ask me what I wanted? I didn’t want a ring at all, I wanted to take the money and get extra nice wedding bands we could pick together instead, but he kept telling me that I would regret not having an e-ring a few years down the road and now he spends thousands on a ring I probably won’t even like.
I love him more than everything and I couldn’t be happier about the fact that I’m going to marry my best friend in the world but I don’t understand at all why he asked me and then did the exact opposite.
I don’t think it’ll be a good idea to talk to him about it- I don’t know if he got the ring already but if he did, he won’t be able to return it. No store would take back a ring just because you don’t like how it looks anymore. Oh bees, I just don’t know if there’s anything I could do without hurting his feelings, I kind of ‘resigned to my fate’ – in the end you can grow to love every ring, don’t you?
If he really purchased a light blue one, I’m so going to give him itchy wool socks for every Christmas for the rest of his life.
Thanks for reading.