Post # 1
Has anyone else gotten pregnant less than a year after having a baby? I just had my first 6 months ago, and I’ve taken 3 positive pregnancy tests between yesterday and today. I do think it’s very early because the line is very faint, but I’m still feeling overwhelmed and stressed. We did want another and we can handle it financially, but this is sooner than we planned. Does anyone else have babies that are so close together? How do you manage it? Everything I read pretty much only tells me there’s an increased risk of delays/complications/etc, so I’m really hoping for some positive input if anyone has experience with this. Thank you!
Post # 2
I’ve known a few women have a surprise 6 months after having a baby. All have been ok. One got pregnant naturally 6 months after having IVF twins – she had 3 under 2!
Post # 3
Me and my sister are 15 months apart, we’ve always been very close and I think the close age gap contributes to it as we went to the same schools and share some mutual friends as well. I think it was quite hard on my parents when we were younger though.
Post # 4
If parents of twins manage it, you can manage it <3
Post # 5
I have a few friends who were born less than a year before/after their siblings, so even closer than yours would be, and they are well-adjusted and successful. Not saying it wouldn’t be a handful, but sometimes we don’t know how much we can handle until we’re in the middle of it. Best wishes.
Post # 6
My sisters kids are 15 months apart! She was devastated at first when she found out she was pregnant again so soon, but now she says she couldn’t see it any other way. My niece and nephew are so adorable together and they are awesome playmates. I know my sister was especially worried about how she could handle it because her first was a very active and difficult baby, but her daughter ended up being an absolute dream (slept through the night by 12 weeks, and is basically the most chill little person).
my neighbour around the block has a 13 month old and also 2 week old twins…now that’s a lot of work! I know a lot of people with a 15 month age gap between kids and they all say it’s tough at first but then awesome because their kids get to be friends since they are so close in age and can entertain each other.
Post # 7
I just had my first (6 weeks) and want another soon bc I’m almost 40 and my doctor just said to wait 6 months…..congratulations and hoping for a healthy pregnancy and baby!!!
Post # 8
I found out I was pregnant at 8m PP with my son and now have 2 under 2 (18mo and 2mo). It’s doable, and honestly– the second one is much easier, at least it has been for me. You already kind of know what to do, and I don’t know– kids are resilient. Your oldest won’t know what’s going on, but they can sense the change and mine has been surprisingly well adjusted to having a little baby around. At first he was kind of scared of him, but now he hugs and kisses and it makes my heart explode.
As far as pregnancy goes, I did have some pre-term labor “issues” (I put that in quotes because it all ended up being non- issues), but was induced at 38 weeks and birthed a healthy 9lb baby. I hate being pregnant anyways, I found the end of pregnancy with a toddler to be more physically challenging than a newborn and a toddler.
Post # 9
I got pregnant when my first son was four and my second child was nine months old. I was having a really rough time due to multiple things that went wrong after delivering my second son. I had severe depression and anxiety at that time and had since he was six weeks old. I’d had a lot of fertility struggles on my way to getting each of the two children I had, so a surprise pregnancy wasn’t on my radar. I discovered I was pregnant when my milk wasn’t letting down normally when I pumped and then that night, there was no milk at all. One day to the next my milk shut off. So I did a pregnancy test and it was positive. I locked myself in the bathroom and cried. I felt so overwhelmed. My nine month old was a terrible sleeper and I was so sleep deprived. I didn’t know how I’d get through another pregnancy and then taking care of another baby.
The pregnancy was tough. I was exhausted from not enough sleep and too much stress. My biggest fear was being up with two crying babies at night. My second slept crazy hours no matter what I did. My first wasn’t like that at all. He was a good sleeper. So, during the pregnancy, I did a lot of research about successful techniques to help babies sleep. I applied everything I learned when my third baby was born. I was already leaning on my mil for help with babysitting (I worked from home) and I continued to do so, for rest for myself sometimes too. My third baby, a girl, ended up being a fantastic sleeper and an easy baby. My second son was tough to manage with his behavior too, primarily because he was sleep deprived. It looks like he inherited insomnia from my side of the family. He’s fourteen now and is frustrated by how hard it is still for him to get enough sleep. But he’s such a good kid now.
Taking care of a toddler and a newborn was challenging mostly because of my fatigue. If that hadn’t been such an issue, I would have enjoyed it more. In some ways it’s easier. People complain about two kids in diapers. Well, expense, ok. But changing diapers is actually a lot easier than potty training and toting around a child that doesn’t have good bladder control yet. I timed things so I could teach them together. My two youngest were eighteen months apart. I did their preschooling myself. I started my second on his early reading skills a little later than I normally would have so I could teach him and his sister together. They were both ahead of schedule compared to other kids. My second was reading and writing his basics before kindergarten and when he brought home his kindergarten books, I used them for his younger sister too to keep her moving forward. She was way ahead when she started kindergarten and it made my life easier as a mom.
All three of my kids have very different personalities but they’ve all learned how to get along and they spend a lot of time together hanging out as friends.
As far as bus and school schedule, it was so much easier having my youngest two only one grade apart and almost always on the same schedule. Much less traipsing around. Now they need much less supervision. I love spending time with them and talking with them. My daughter asks me a lot if I’m glad I had her. She knows all the history and that when I went I to my ob for my antinausea meds, he knew it wasn’t a planned pregnancy and he offered me an abortion on the spot. I declined. Abortion was not for me. Yes, I had a tough time, it was REALLY tough for a while. I don’t think it would have been half as tough as it was if my son hadn’t inherited a biological condition that causes insomnia. But we don’t always get perfectly healthy children, do we? I got through it and, over time, things got easier. I love all of my kids and the answer to my daughter’s question is YES! Always yes! I’m so glad I had her. She brings me so much joy. Not a day goes by that I don’t remember holding her when she was a baby, how sweet and funny she was. Our close bond between me and my daughter has been a blessing during quarantine, when she can’t be with her friends. I’m her mother, she’s my daughter, but we also have a precious friendship. No regrets.
Post # 10
This helps so much!! I really appreciate you guys sharing your stories/input. <3
Post # 11
My mom had 4 kids under 5 at one point when we were little! (And no twins!)
I absolutely love having siblings so close in age to me ❤️
Post # 12
My Nana had 4 kids in 3 years and 3 months 😳
Post # 13
my boys are 15m apart and so I was 5m pp
It’s is tough but so amazing and the boys can’t live without each other…I struggle daily but know In The end it will be worth it
Post # 14
One of my good friends actually went out of her way to get pregnant with Baby #2 starting at 6 months. I think they managed to get pregnant when their daughter was 8 months.
Post # 15
My sister’s friend found out she was pregnant at her 6-week postpartum appointment! She just thought her period hadn’t come back yet.. turns out she got pregnant the first time she ovulated after giving birth. She had a healthy second pregnancy.
My friend intentionally got pregnant when her first was 10 months old, she’s having twin boys! So three under two!
I also have many friends that are 14-18 months apart from their siblings.
My mom had 3 under four and said it was a little hectic but she liked that we were so close and entertained each other and went through the same things at relatively the same time. My mom’s friends that have kids close in age all say they wouldn’t have it any other way. I think it’s just what you did and are used.