(Closed) I think I'm scared of… (TMI!)

posted 5 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Are you scared/grossed out by semen?
    Yes : (6 votes)
    5 %
    No : (97 votes)
    76 %
    Just scared : (0 votes)
    Just grossed out : (25 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    It’s really not that bad at all. The texture can be a little gross sometimes, but I just put a piece of tissue over the hole as Darling Husband pulls out and go to the washroom after giving it a few minutes to get where it needs to be. It doesn’t feel like anything really except for a whole lot of lubrication.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @MrsRugbee:  Hahahahahaha…..this just made me laugh a lot.  If you are going to be TTC, I would recommend lying down for 10-15 min afterwards to give the swimmers a chance to get to where they need to go, and I find that if I did this, a lot less splooge came out of me.  However, it does not visibly move, and although it is a little icky, it is super similar to fertile cervical fluid, so it’s not too scary because we ladies have the same consistency of stuff come out of us too.  The only way to see sperm is under a microscope, so hopefully that will give you a little piece of mind.  Although I will admit, it is a little weird to think of something swimming around inside your baby-maker, but in all reality, we have a lot of things swimming around in us, from harmless bacteria to our very own cells.  Just try to think of sperm as that, just very normal cells that are designed to accomplish something, just like any other cell in our bodies.  For example, our fallopian tube cells have cilia on them that are constantly moving.  Some immune cells move around by rolling all over the place, depending on what chemicals are around attracting them.  

    Splooge is still, and always will be, a little icky though πŸ˜› 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    @MrsRugbee:  Haha, before we figured out the system of putting the tissue there as he was pulling out it did leak on the sheets a couple of times. It wasn’t too bad at all though.

    Post # 7
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    1081 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @ScottishMrs:  I also “plug the hole” with a paper towel thing while I run to the bathroom, then throw it away and try to get rid of all left over splooge in the toilet while I am peeing after sex.  We have a box of the Kleenex hand towel things, they have been a lifesaver! Before we were using them we always just grabbed a towel..but sometimes we forgot beforehand.  Now, our cleaner-uppers are always right by our bed, and I do waaaay less loads of towels.  And wash the sheets less often πŸ˜‰

    These bad boys:

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsRugbee:  If it’s just a mental aversion you have, I don’t know how anybody can really help you with that… I do think it’s a bit odd that in 6 years you’ve never encountered semen! I guess not a lot of oral sex going on either? Is your husband grossed out by / scared of your bodily fluids? I hope not, and if not, then it’s a bit of a double standard don’t you think? Maybe you just need to start slowly, getting it on you rather than in you for starters? Just so you can get used to the idea. If you’ve never encountered it before, who knows, maybe you’ll find it really hot. A lot of women do. If you’re not used to it then it probably will surprise you a bit, it goes up inside you but then most of it runs back out. I find I have to wear a pantyliner or put some tp or tissues down there after sex so my underwear don’t feel gross. But I don’t ‘find it gross’ during sex at all. 

    As funny as this sounds, there are very real health benefits to having frequent exposure to your husband’s semen BEFORE starting TTC. Recent studies have found that pre-eclampsia is probably caused by an immune response to your husband’s genetic material (i.e., the part of your child that is made up of your husband’s genes). Women who have regular sex with their husbands without a barrier method prior to conceiving are much less likely to end up with this potentially very dangerous blood pressure condition during pregnancy. One study that I read said that oral exposure was the most effective. Not joking even at all. Basically, they started to suspect this connection because women tend to get pre-eclampsia way more often with their first pregnancy, but if their next pregnancy is with another man, they are just as likely to get pre-eclampsia as first-time moms. 

    Summary: Semen is good for you!

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    @cowgirlace:  I’ve never heard of those. Are they thicker than normal kleenex? We keep a roll of toilet paper in the drawer of the bedside table where we keep our other naughty stuff ;).

    Post # 10
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    1081 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @ScottishMrs:  Yes, and they are a little bigger, so I usually use just one and Darling Husband uses one to kind of wipe himself off.  I have also used normal Kleenexes and it usually takes at least 2 to prevent spillage, our bedroom is upstairs and our one bathroom is downstairs, so the hand towels do a better job of keeping it all contained until I get to the bathroom that seems a mile away! Haha

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsRugbee:  hahaha no prob. Is it bad that I lol’d when I saw that the study was done by scientists in Amsterdam?

    Sorry, from your post I got the feeling that you were more concerned about it than you seem to be. Sounds like your husband is kind of pulling your leg! Or thinks he’s a porn star? haha

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Semen’s texture is pretty gross to me. I don’t really have much of a problem with it being on or in me, but my husband is on a very strict absolutely no orgasming in my mouth rule. I really don’t want to end up vomiting on his crotch.. total mood killer. πŸ™ It’s completely the texture for me, too. Taste wise, it’s not bad, but texture? Urp.

    Your husband isn’t a fire hose. He’ll probably ejaculate 10cc (average) which is the “household equivilant” of two teaspoons. He isn’t going to fill you up and he isn’t going to blast the stuff around your body (and the room) like a garden hose left unattended.

    There will be a considerable amount though, that likes to leak out. My husband and I use a “naughty towel” to catch the drips while I hobble my way to the bathroom (Luckily our bathroom is attached to our bedroom!)

    You’ll also probably leak for a while afterwards, so maybe you should invest in some cheap panty liners (Like the super light days. I use liners from U by Kotex because they’re cheap and comfortable (and also I can’t feel them while I’m wearing them.)

    So, just be forwarned that you’re not going to get everything out in one go (Not that you’d like to while TTC), but it is a messy situation.

    Baby wipes help. We have a box on the back of the toilet. He uses them to clean off and I use them to clean up!

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Ha. It doesn’t get everywhere if you’re careful.

    Post # 15
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    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The methods above are going to be very useful when you’re going for a baby.

    To get over the aversion, however, I’d suggest you be a little “adventurous” and let him finish POM on your stomach or in your hand once or twice. Then you’ll get a chance to see it, feel it, and get an idea of the amount so you can jump that mental hurdle of what’s to come. *Sorry, bad pun, I just had to.* It’s really not that bad or that much, but I can definitely see how it could be a little hangup if you’ve never dealt with it.

    Post # 16
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    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @MrsRugbee:  We’d always had a barrier method too until the last 2 months, now I just use BC pills. I’m still getting used to it, it does gross me out a bit, but I’m trying to not let it show for my DH’s sake. πŸ™‚ And we always use a “cum-towel.” Just an old crappy towel to put under us so our sheets don’t get wet and dirty all the time. I haven’t tried the tissue method, might have to give that a shot!

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