(Closed) I think I’m the most ignorant bride ever…

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ha ha – I have no idea what all the fuss is about either – im glad im not the only one!

Post # 4
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think you have to pick colors that you MUST absolutely adhere to.

It’s more like you go in choosing a few colors that say, if you have to get some tablecloths and napkins to go atop those tablecloths, the colors of each aren’t going to clash with one another.

It’s more about giving your wedding a harmonious look, so everything ties together, rather than making sure everything is matchy matchy.

I would probably say you’d be taking a risk telling a florist that whatever color she has is fine..you’re going to end up with whatever she has left over and whatever is cheapest for her. Id go in with atleast a color family or a few choices to pick from.


Post # 6
355 posts
Helper bee

The other place where people sometimes use color schemes is in save-the-dates, invitations, thank you notes, etc but personally I really think all of this is really for the bride — guests don’t really notice all little details as much as the wedding industry would have you believe.  I have been to about about 30 weddings in the last five years and I can really only remember 3 – 4 and those were because of the good time I had, cool venue, great food, etc.  I can’t for the life of me remember the color schemes — and I was part of the wedding party at some of them!!

Post # 7
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sometimes it’s just easier to have a colour scheme so you aren’t bombarded by all the wonderful thousands of colours out there when you come to choosing invitations, save the dates, favours, etc. But equally I have seen beautiful weddings where they just went for what they thought was the prettiest colour for that particular item and it worked beautifully.

But you don’t need one. So go with how you feel about it 🙂

Post # 8
898 posts
Busy bee

You don’t NEED one. But if you’re prone to picking up anything and everything pretty, like me, it helps so that your wedding doesn’t look like a child’s birthday party with every crayola color represented.

I haven’t chosen any colors, but I always want to buy pretty stuff for the wedding. I have to stop myself or I’ll end up not using a lot of stuff because the look isn’t cohesive.

Post # 10
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

These are places your ‘colors’ might come into play:

Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses

table linens/menus



decorations (hanging decorations, etc.)

favor boxes/favors

candy buffet

details (colored bridal shoes, jewelry, signs, etc.)

Now, I have been to weddings where they have all of these, and wedding where they only have Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and centerpieces.

At my SILs wedding that was the only place that colors came into play, and she never picked a scheme. The Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were blue, invites were white, and centerpieces were white, and that was that -in her case there was no need.

If, on the other hand, you are including a lot of colorful details, then I would try to coordinate them in a general sense. Maybe not exact colors but just a general theme, i.e. ‘cool colors’, ‘jewel tones’, etc.

Post # 11
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I am SO with you.  It’s all been a complete mystery to me and we definitely don’t have a color scheme.  We’ve just been picking things out we liked in general, or that we just thought would look cool.  I have no idea how many colors one would even say we’re using – but they’re all pretty earthy tones so it’s not like it’ll be crazy. If you just keep something like that in mind you’ll be fine!  We just picked out stuff that was in our taste generally.

Post # 12
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i’m with you. i totally don’t have an event color scheme, per se — i mean, i don’t have co-ordinated colors on napkins plus linens plus bridesmaids. (for my OWN accessories, i’ve stuck with peaches, pale corals, but this isn’t carried thru for the rest of the day.) personally, i think TOO co-ordinated and matchy-matchy looks like a prom-type situation…. i like it that my "attendants" (all little kids, four girls and one boy) aren’t all wearing the same fabric or same colors.

attached is an image showing the effect i’m going for. 


Post # 13
1205 posts
Bumble bee

You don’t need “colors” per say, but I bet if you set down all of the wedding wants you have, you’ll find a common theme.  Sometimes it’s not so much of a color scheme as it is a look.   

As long as you have an overall picture in your head of what you want (and can communicate that to those that need to understand it) then you’re good!  Just make sure that the dresse the BMs pick look pretty all together as well as apart.


Post # 14
2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree; strict color schemes are quite unecessary. As long as you have a general idea of the sort of palette you’d like (jewel tone/pastel/neutral/festive/formal/seasonal/warm/cool/etc.), and keep things coordinated and classy, it really doesn’t matter if everything is in the exact same shade of navy and pale lavender.

Just based on my preferences, I’m looking at having shades of cool green, blue, and indigo with gold/metallic accents for fun, tying it all together with neutral creams and whites.

Every super color schemed wedding I’ve been to has looked Prom-y and less than impressive. Also, if you’re asking for too much uniformity, you’re asking for Bridezilla moments too!

Post # 15
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m with you, I never know how to answer people when they ask me what my colors are. I tell them what my favorite color is because I’m sure it will appear more often than others in the wedding, but it’s definetly not the only color. Like others have mentioned, i’m going for a springy, vintagy, look so it should all tie together reguardless of a color scheme. I figure they’ll understand when they come to the wedding, and if they don’t, oh well.

Post # 16
900 posts
Busy bee

I don’t really have “wedding colors.”  I found a photo of a bouquet I liked and just picked out things that sort of “went” with it.  I still don’t know what my colors are, but everything does go together.

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