Post # 1
I’m pretty sure I’m the most ridiculous person on the face of the planet. I thinking I’m having some dress regret. It’s so stupid. I know it is but I also know I’m the worst when it comes to making clothes decision. My style is eccentric and chaotic. When we first got engaged we planned on doing a romantic, vintage, outdoor wedding (aka the typical wedding porn you see on the net these days) but during our search we couldn’t find an appropriate venue in our price range.
What we ended up with is an beautiful, simple outdoor area for our wedding and a very modern, spacious ballroom for the reception. Obviously a rustic, vintage wedding would just seem a bit weird in this space.
We’re doing a black and ivory damask wedding with accents of green and gray.
This is just a little inspiration board I came up with
This is the dress I bought. It is beautiful and I do love it. But I almost feel it’s too..idk..traditional and sparkly up top. It also buttons all the way up and is very sparkly down the back.
When I got the dress I was so overwhelmed. I’ve been working so hard to get my body back and for the first time I really felt like a bride. Then the consultant told me they were selling it as is for $300 (It’s a $1600 gown) I was planning on taking a couple of days to calm myself and then go back by myself to purchase it but my mom said, “You love it and I want you to have what you love so I’m buying it.”
So I ended up with a wedding dress 18 months before my wedding.
Since that time I’ve been obsessing about this other dress I tried on and loved that I ruled out because I thought it wouldn’t work out well for the style of wedding we were aiming for.
It’s a similar cut but it’s a lot lighter and simpler.
Now I just feel like a jerk because I don’t want to tell my mother I’m having second thoughts when she went out of her way to buy this dress for me. And sadly enough despite being a grown woman I’m still intimidated by my mother and worried about making her mad. She’s not a fan of weddings, doesn’t see the point in them, so getting her excited about the dress and planning was a big deal for me.
Post # 3
Hmm, I actually think that your dress is simpler than the other one. I think yours has simple lines, compared to the ruching on the 2nd dress, which is what makes it fancier. However, I do see your point about not “matching” your inspiration.
Can you try your dress with a non-beaded sash? Maybe ivory, champagne, or even sage green? That might take away from the beading a bit, and may help you decide.
Post # 4
I originally tried to place a plain sash around the dress but it would have to be a huge sash to really cover up any beading because of the way the dress forms a triangle down the stomach.
I see what you mean about the simple lines of the first dress. It does make the dress look less busy. I wish I had a picture of me in the second dress (the store wouldn’t allow us to take pictures)
Idk I might just sit on it until September(the 1 year mark) and see how I feel at that point in time. I mean at the end of the day it’s just a dress and I’ll still be married to the man I love so it shouldn’t be a big deal. It’s just hard not to get wrapped up in all the pretty dress, the details, and the wants.
Post # 5
@nyscpa2be: “Hmm, I actually think that your dress is simpler than the other one. I think yours has simple lines, compared to the ruching on the 2nd dress, which is what makes it fancier.”
Post # 6
If she bought it for $300, could you try selling it and then give her the money back. You might make a profit from it!
Post # 7
Oh, and I also agree that the second dress is a bit more “stylish” while the dress you have now is more traditional and less likely to look dated after a couple years. I think it also fits nicely in your vision.
Post # 8
I think your first dress totally fits with your vision.
Post # 9
The dres you have looks very much like the one on your inspiration board!! I would keep it. Have you seen this thread? It might help.
Post # 10
Yes I’ve seen the link but I haven’t seen it since the first day it started. Thanks!
Thanks for your opinions ladies. I’ve now added a poll to this as well.
Post # 11
I agree with PPs, I think your first dress has simpler lines and it is still in line with your inspirational dress.
I know majority of people here all have dress regrets (that’s why I stopped watching Say Yes to the Dress and any other dress pictures after I purchased mine haha).
I think your dress right now works fine, but of coz there are always a better dress out there. However, I would highly suggest before you start shopping for another dress, see what kind of budget you have for a wedding gown first. Wedding is not cheap and you never know how much you end up spending on other things. Looks like you still have time to decide to start looking on second gown.
Post # 12
i think the dress you have looks great on you and matches nicely with what you have on your inspiration board.
Post # 13
I really love your dress I think you look stunning.
To be honest that dress you shared I have seen and tried on in person and it wasn’t my favorite. The material is also very shiny and much thinner than I had anticipated.