Post # 1
So I emailed in to work this morning saying I wouldn’t be in until the afternoon (it’s what people do here, we don’t call in, we email) because I had been up with back spasms most of the night and as of 7:30 this morning couldn’t sit for more than a few minutes without agonizing pain.
I took some pain killers & muscle relaxants and spent another 3 hours in bed with a heat pack on my back and came in to work for 11, I’m not moving too well and am a little loopy from the drugs.
Since I got here though, I’ve gotten the feeling that my bosses (the 2 older ones) think I’m full of shit. The younger partner seems a little more sympathetic, I know he has similar issues. I’m only 30, I realize that it’s not common for people my age to have muscle/back pain like this, but it’s something I’ve dealt with my whole life, I don’t handle stress well and stress causes extreme muscle tension in my back and neck.
What would you do if you were me?
**this is the second time in 4 months I’ve been late for work for something like this, previously it was a tension related migraine and I came in to work at noon.
Post # 3
@MsGinkgo: I’ve actually been in your shoes before with back spasms- when I was 25. I got the cold shoulder from my bosses too. I just let it ride out, and they chilled out within a few days. Did you email in with less than 1 hour before you were supposed to show?
Bosses usually get pretty irritated in general with monday morning call-ins, in my experience.
Keep your chin up!
Post # 4
@chic_and_fabulous: I emailed at 7:30 saying I wouldn’t be in at 8:30. I work at a consulting firm as a Landscape Architect, I had no meetings and no immediate deadlines so it shouldn’t be a big deal. I came in at 11 and I’m not taking my lunch so really I only missed 1.5 hours today and I can easily make that up/they technically owe me 27hours so far this year from all the times I’ve stayed late or come in early.
Post # 5
@MsGinkgo: If it was me, I’d just let it roll off your back; they’ll chill out. It’s not like you’re getting written up or anything- they’re just being cranky?
P.S. How’s your back feeling?
Post # 6
@chic_and_fabulous: they’re just being cranky, it could just be Monday…
My back is starting to seize up again, sitting at a computer is not good for it at all, heating pad is out – thanks for asking
Post # 7
@MsGinkgo: Oyy!!!!! If I were you, I’d go home, take a muscle relaxant, and rest rest rest 🙂
Do you think you’ll be able to even handle coming into work tomorrow?
Have you done those slow back stretches to help ease the pain? Like slow and gentle cat and cow yoga poses? What seems to help you get through the spasms?
Sorry I have 5 million questions, it’s just that I feel so bad for you that you’re in pain, and your boss isn’t helping.
Post # 8
@chic_and_fabulous: usually I have to lie on the floor with a magic bag on the spot, it’s weird but it’s the only thing that feels good. Right now I’m trying to get up and move around fairly frequently and stretch out. I have a massage appointment for Wednesday am – first I could book.
I’m doing my best to make it through the next 2 hours but it might not happen. I work in an office of ‘heros’ they all come to work sick etc. Drives me nuts, if you’re sick you’re sick and you shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for taking care of yourself.
Post # 9
I think you are reading too much into it. It probably isn’t even on their radar/they don’t really care, and that’s why they haven’t commented. Back spasms aren’t that uncommon among people who work desk jobs – have you checked out the ergonomics of your work station/your work posture lately?
Post # 10
Let your bosses seethe, they really can’t do much about this.
Bring in treats or something tomorrow morning if you still feel bad about it.
Also, try to take some deep breaths and not worry too much about what they think. 🙂
Post # 11
They could totally have something else on their mind. I’m so sorry about your back. 🙁
Post # 12
I would get medical documentation and start some physio for the spasms. It took me 2 years to recover from mine, I feel ya.