(Closed) I think my dress is a little over-the-top

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I had a fancy dress for my country-style wedding and I loved it. I think your dress is beautiful and as long as you keep your accessories simple it won’t be overdone. Also, for what it’s worth, I am totally a simple person, I work outside all year long so 90% of the people at my wedding were used to seeing me in carhartts and muck boots. I was “overdressed” for an outdoor wedding but, in my opinion, in the best way possible Tongue Out, I wanted to look and feel amazing on the day I committed my life to my wonderful husband and I did. So don’t regret your dress, rock it!

Post # 33
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not a fan of this style, OP, but for your venue (which sounds awesome!), I think it’ll be perfect. It’s not like it’s got lights on it! And if you love it, that’s all that matters.

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@londonchick:  Chill.

Post # 34
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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1. Everyone has different tastes. The dress may seem fundamentally wrong to you, but very appealing to others.

2. She’s having major dress regret <2mos before the wedding, that is very normal. I had that same regret too, worried I will look stupid etc and I even posted on the WB too. Sometimes encouragement and positive reinforcement is what one needs, because you get nervouse thinking about your day, thinking that all eyes will be on you…etc.

3. Obviously something made her fall in love / bought the dress when she tried it on, but somehow she has forgotten about it and having 2nd thoughts. But it is an entirely different context she is in now – probably sitting on the bed, gazing at her dress hanging in her wardrobe. That is a very different context to getting dolled up on your wedding day, with your BMs all dressed up, surrounded by well dressed people, flowers, champagne etc etc etc. On that day, the dress will feel ‘right’. At least for me, it did. I am speaking from personal experience.

4. Yes everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I stuck around with the WB post wedding because I liked the supportive ambience in here. At first glance, I did also think the Xmas tree comment was aimed at OP’s dress, until I saw you explained to OP. 

I may be entirely off tangent here to what OP is thinking, but I personally wouldn’t love hearing someone said I chose a baked Alaska dress either. And I honestly do NOT think the dress is over the top / hideous. Just showed DH the dress piccie and he said it’s nice too. I feel that we should be supportive of each other, by not giving hurtful comments that you wouldn’t want to receive yourself, and not be untruthful either. Perhaps you are fine being told you chose a baked Alaska, so okay, you can go ahead and say it. 

Post # 35
3 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think it’s pretty! I also am having a bit of dress regret (not because I don’t love it) because I bought a mermaid style with a huge bottom and extremely long train…it’s going to be hell to move around in it all night. You’ll look stunning at the ceremony, and the back/train is really the “big” part of the dress, which you can bustle 🙂

Post # 36
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it fits for the venue you have. I love the dress, I think it’s beautiful but you seem very uncomfortable. Maybe you just need to get back in it and see how you feel then…

Post # 37
2268 posts
Buzzing bee

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@fishbone:  That’s exactly what I was thinking. The bodice is normal and beautiful. The skirt is what looks extra fancy. Releasing the bustles and having it hemmed would really tone it down.

Post # 38
2724 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with londonchick and blanche. I think the title of the thread hits the nail on the head.

Post # 39
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh! This dress is a lot of dress in my opinion.  It’s not my cup of tea but…

That said, you loved something about it!!! what can be done to bring to down (if that’s what you want?)

For your venue, ou might not feel overdone.  I think everyone feels overdone in their dress in their living rooms.  You know?

Post # 40
12 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Personally, I think this dress is beautiful.  You said you are a simple girl so maybe you should opt for another dress or wear this one (which noone would ever suspect you would wear) and blow their minds!!! It’s a lovely dress

Post # 41
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)

If I was wearing the dress Id probably just wear stud earrings and a pull my hair into a sleek bun…. Id let the dress speak for itself, and buy a plain veil to match.

Post # 42
578 posts
Busy bee

it’s so pretty. if I were you I would keep my hair loose, with either a tiara or relatively simple veil. natural makeup and stud earrings.

you’ll be beautiful!

Post # 44
758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m not sure that saying the dress looks like a baked alaska is mean or hurtful or anything. Personally, I think the dress is beautiful and not OTT at all.

And here is a dress that looks (er, is) a baked alaska:

Post # 45
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Destinationwedding101:  i didn’t say the dress is fundamentally wrong, I said the fact that she’s picked a dress that goes against her style is fundamentally wrong. I do dislike the dress, so what, someone could say the same about mine but I know it suits me and my taste and you’re not grasping the concept of when someone looking uncomfortable in something they don’t really like. I’ve seen some ugly dresses that actually looked NICE because it SUITED the person who wore it because they had the savvy to pull it off.


There’s a distinct lack of honesty on here and too much ego smoothing

Post # 46
32 posts

beautiful dress.Smile

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