(Closed) I think my dress is a little over-the-top

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Amasmash:  Op did you try the dress on at all before you bought it? Is it possible to see pictures of you wearing it?

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@londonchick:  I agree, but then in doing so I’m risking yet another MOD warning snark in the boards message… I’ll just sit back and wait for it to come!

Post # 49
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@londonchick:  There’s a difference between giving an honest opinion tactfully and being outright rude.

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Love, love , Love….especially since you are having a fall wedding…

And in all honesty, if you are a simple girl this dress witll be a complete surprise to everyone!!!! The beaded bodice is stunning…no necklace needee…simple teardrop ear rings, smokey eye with pale lip…B E A U T I F U L!!!

It’s a Maggie Satturo dress isn’t it….I almost bought the Jenna, very similar, but only bead work to the side….But I am still shoppping…:(

Congrats and enjoy your moment!!

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@londonchick:  Post 13. You did say Christmas tree. Though baked Alaska isn’t any better.

Plenty of bees get “dress regret” not just because of the dress, but because of overall wedding anxiety due to all the stress, and the dress is just a symbol of that. So no, I don’t think bashing and trying to talk someone out of a dress that they loved when they picked it is always the best course of action. Plenty of bees experience dress regret, but love their dress the day of the wedding. I don’t encourage people to waste money on a whim.

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@VAwife:  +1

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think this is any more over the top than at least half the dresses we see on here!  I am not sure why everyone is being so cricitcal of this dress.  I have seen way busier dresses!

I will agree that you should keep jewelry to a minimun.  I wouldn’t do dangly earrings, I would do studs and NO necklace (the neckline is embellished enough).  I would also do hair up and sleek.  Are you having a veil?  I think you could do no veil or a very simple one. 

Post # 54
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Who cares if its over the top, if you love it wear it! Its your day and you can wear whatever you want. I personally love the dress, i think is gorgeous! Great choice!

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That dress is beautiful!!!  I honestly agree that you can never be too overdressed for your own wedding.  My sister had a casual Destination Wedding and wanted everyone to wear khakis and hawaiian shirts… until she fell in love with a huge ballgown.  So all of the guests were wearing shorts and hawaiian shirts, while she wore her ballgown and her groom upgraded to a tux to match her.  It still looked awesome!  You know why?  Because it was her wedding!  Nobody thought a thing of it that she was dressed far more formally than the rest of us, because most people expect the bride to wear a huge white dress  =o)  Congrats on getting married!!!

Post # 56
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What a beautiful dress! It’s your wedding, your one chance to dress like a princess (without purchasing a costume for Halloween) and I think that you should wear what YOU want! This is your day, not any of ours! 

If you really want to tone it down, I totally agree with the previous posts that maybe releasing some of the pickups in the skirt would help, I would leave the back as is though. I think it’s beautiful.

Honestly though, don’t tone down because you don’t feel it’s appropriate. If you love the dress and that is the dress that you want to marry your Fiance in, then do it! Don’t let the opinion of others affect how you feel. What is important is that you feel beautiful and that is, in fact, the dress that you envision saying “I Do” in. 🙂 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee

OP, if it makes you feel any better – I went against my overall style when choosing a dress, too. I disagree that it’s fundamentally wrong to choose something outside of what we normally wear because your wedding day isn’t a “normal” day whatsoever! I went into my bridal appointment saying “no bling, no poof, no beading, no lace, no nothing!” and I walked out with an all lace gown with a very full skirt. I have had my moments of regret too…wondering if I should have gone with something more simple. But then I think to myself…I want my day to be different, I want to surprise my guests with my choice and I want to feel distinct that day. When I look at my pictures thus far, I just feel so pretty and that’s what is important!

If you are curious – here is what I ended up with:

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/for-the-love-of-lace-1st-dress-fitting-pics

With regards to “toning it down” – I’m not sure that’s necessary beyond what you are already doing with simple accessories and a simple hairstyle. I might skip the veil as well. I do like the suggestion of making the skirt a simple A-line (rather than have the pick-ups in the back). That would lend itself to a more “simple” style.

Best of luck!!!

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Up until 2 years ago when I had to sell my farm, I was in breeches and muckboots (or paddock boots) at all times. Now I’m your typical blue-collar worker and when I say blue I mean blue. Our uniforms at work are navy blue top to bottom, workboots, no jewelry and hair pulled tight in a bun.

I get it…you’re used to being a certain way and are comfortable with that. I am too. However this is the one day in your life where you can step outside that box and say ‘Look! I’m marrying my best friend in this amazing dress and I’m loving it all!’ (I’m stepping WAY outside the box with Victorian Steampunk! FWIW)

Dress regret is normal. There are so many emotions and feelings wrapped up in the planning process and as the date looms closer we project those onto the dress as the ultimate symbol of the wedding. I believe that once you recognize this and realize that your wedding will be the perfect day for you then your feeling for your dress will come back…after all nothing of it matters as long as your best friend is there by your side!

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Is it possible for us to see a pic of you in the dress?  It really makes all the difference how the dress looks on vs in a stock photo. 

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