- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I’m worried about my friend again. I’ve posted about her before, but before I was just worried about the guy she was dating at the time. Now I’m worried for her health and safety.
I think she’s becoming an alcoholic. Ever since she started dating her current boyfriend 7 months ago, she’s been drinking. It’s not a weekend thing or an every once in a while thing. It’s every single day that she doesn’t have her son, she is drunk. She drinks in her car while she’s on break at work. She came to my house once and when she got out of the car, she was drinking a beer. There were three other empty beer cans in her car that she asked if she could throw away while she was here. She wanted to go buy more beer before she left and I wouldn’t let her. I also begged her to sleep over at my house because she was drunk. Thankfully she agreed to stay. But this is all she does now. The gas station where she used to buy beer from has had to refuse to sell to her numerous times because she comes in drunk, trying to buy more beer.
I’ve talked to her about it before. I’ve asked her if she thinks she’s drinking too much. She doesn’t see the big deal because “it’s just beer” and “it’s not interfering with her life”. She’s drinking and driving and last night she called me crying because she said she had gotten so drunk that she didn’t know if she was raped or not. (The guy that was at her house sent her a text implying that they’d had sex). She’s also afraid to go to the health department to get tested or to report the guy because they don’t think they’d take the report seriously since she was drunk. She’s deleted all of the texts he sent her as well. (I am not adding this because I think that she was asking for it by being that drunk and having the guy over at her house or anything like that. I firmly believe that nobody ever asks to be raped, and if I knew the guy I’d go and hurt him myself. I’m just scared for her, and this makes me even more scared for her, because he knows her well, knows where she lives and knows where she keeps her extra house key.)
I am very concerned for her. Very, very concerned for her.
Her grandmother, the only mother figure she’s ever had, has called me a few times wanting me to talk to her because she says that my friend won’t listen to them. I don’t think that anything I say will make a difference either though, and I’m not really sure if it’s my place to tell her to get her life together. She’s 26. Her grandparents are worried that her drinking is going to come out though and she will lose custody of her son. Her ex husband is still trying to sue her for full custody. Her grandparents don’t know she might have been raped. What should I be doing? She’s my friend. I want to help her and I don’t know where to begin…
Has anyone else been in this situation before?