Post # 1
I have a friend of mine who is in a very unstable abusive relationship. About 3 weeks ago she told me she was pregnant. She has since went in and the ultrasound revealed no baby. She went in for bloodwork – but has not heard back yet. I think she is faking a pregnancy to try and see if this abusive guy will attach to her more – and be more loving, more faithful, etc… It is a losing battle. The last thing I want is for her to end up a single mother again, yes again. I guess only time will tell if she is really pregnant… any ideas on how to handle this situation/ anyone had this happen before?
Post # 3
@newbabybee: I would let her know you’re always there for her but that she’s with the wrong guy and barking up the wrong tree.
She probably won’t listen to you… sadly there’s not much we can do to control others.
Post # 4
To be honest you can have a pregnancy in which they can not find the baby. It’s called a blighted ovum pregnancy – the embryo implants, but the baby dies very soon after. But the woman’s body doesn’t figure it out at first. It thinks there is still a pregnancy growing. So she doesn’t start bleeding right away. On an ultrasound, there is clearly a gestational sac but no baby can be seen.
I know because this happened to me.
Post # 6
Good advice, I am glad to hear there is a such thing as finding the sac, but no baby. She said they didn’t find anything – and that her ovaries were “off center” whatever that means? I just am concerned for her. She is a really great friend – but she has me worried now too. I know of ectopic pregnancies as well – but I have heard they are very painful. She said she doesn’t have any pain. Why wouldn’t a Dr. provide you with the results of blood work right away? She goes to the same clinic I do – and I have always had blood/urine results with-in the hour. Things just are not adding up.
Post # 7
@newbabybee: besides being painful an ectopic is an emergency so I am sure if they suspected one, they would try to treat her right away! They are probably taking her blood to see if her hcg levels are doubling every 48-72 hours. She would need her blood drawn, then wait a couple days, then have it drawn again to check and see if it’s going up the way it should be. So it can take awhile. Maybe that is why it’s taking longer. Regardless it sounds like a scary situation.
Post # 8
Thanks Magdalena for your help.
Post # 9
I would handle it by staying totally out of it, but it doesn’t sound like she’s faking pregnancy, it just sounds like it’s a problematic one.
Post # 10
@Magdalena: Im so sorry you have gone through this, so have I hugs to you!
Post # 11
@newbabybee: I don’t understand. If she were faking why would she tell you there’s no baby? I pictured someone going around saying they were pregnant with no positive pregnancy test.
Sounds like she needs your support because she might be having a miscarriage and definitely because she is in an abusive relationship.
Post # 12
I have heard of people faking pregnancies in my small town before – it always comes out in the end unless they put on a convincing miscarriage story and it is almost always to keep the guy.
It’d be nice for an update on how this turned out!
Post # 13
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Just an FYI this post is 10 months old! If the friend in question was really pregnant she would have had the baby by now! 🙂
Post # 14
@JessicaJupiter: Just came back to my original post. My friend ended up having a miscarriage about 2 weeks after this post. Then this past month (November) she literally packed up all of her belongings and moved away from that nasty abusive boyfriend, but she was pregnant for real this time. So just a few weeks ago she had an abortion. I am not sure how to feel about it. Anyways – that is a whole diff. story. Just wanted to fill in the last poster – who wanted to know what happened to her. I am pretty sure she will never go back to her ex either – she has a new (seems to be nice) boyfriend.