- 11 months ago
- Wedding: City, State
Then he told me no matter what he said I wasn’t going to believe him, and we left it at that.
This is more than a little concerning. His response to your legitimate upset was to dump the responsibility on you. I don’t have to tell you the truth because you won’t believe me.
From there, it’s a short hop to: If you’re going to accuse me of cheating, I might as well go ahead and do it.
Which will ultimately lead us to the cherry on the parfait: I didn’t tell you because I didn’t want to hurt/make you mad/upset you.
In husband’s version of reality, it’s all your fault. This is the classic posturing of people lacking in character. They just won’t accept responsibility for their behavior.
Your husband’s obnoxious behavior at the Christmas party revealed quite a bit about his character, or lack thereof. He abandoned his wife so he could spend the evening drooling all over himself, lusting after a coworker. That’s not a good definition of class or integrity.
You have established there is some type of extra curricular crap going on between them, the extent is not yet known. But, it’s more that he is trying to keep hidden from his wife.
Once the initial shock and pain begin to ease, maybe it’s a good time to take a good look at this guy and decide if he’s worth fighting for.