(Closed) I think my husbands Co-Worker or boss is trying to get him fired. =( Long!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I worked for someone like her.  My honest best advice?  Tell him to start looking for a new job or a transfer.  If your husband is like me, the demeaning attitude, constant second guessing at your work, and feeling belittled and stupid will start to wear down on him.  And I took out my frustation and anger on my SO.  He knew that it had nothing to do with him, helped me work it out etc.  Long story short, he should get out of there unless he is totally in love with his job. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

She sounds like a bitter woman. I am so sorry you guys are going through that. I am crossing my fingers your husband gets out from under her.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MissFlipFlops:  Is there no one else he can speak to?  Any other supervisors to discuss transfer opportunities?  Or maybe speaking to other people who have left recently and look for tips about getting something new?  I’m really sorry hun.  I knew I couldn’t go anywhere in my old company either, so it took a while but found a new job.  *hugs*

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Am i the only one who thinks that maybe the boss isn’t just being a bitch? I don’t know her aside from this story and maybe i am jaded but i work with a lot of…interesting people. And most of them are pretty whatev towards me in general and don’t go out of their way for me. Short answers are kind of the norm.

Maybe the guy off the street was a better fit. If your husband’s boss wanted to hire your husband for the job, she would’ve done it.  What I do think your husband should do is go talk to his boss about the opening and ask if there are things he can work on to make himself a suitable candidate and not just take her short answer and that’s it. Push her for advice on how to improve. And then DO IT. If he shows that he’s willing to improve or expand his skill set, that speaks volumes. What field is your husband in? Is there some education he can work on or a certification or training to make himself more competitive?

And if she wanted to fire him, she would find a reason–trust me, if she wants to, she’ll find it! But it doesn’t sound like there is a reason except she prefers this other guy’s work over your husband’s, and she didn’t even hire the other guy for the job, so he can’t be THAT qualified!

Post # 8
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@ejs4y8: I agree with you 100%.

Your husband is being passed over for promotions for a reason. He needs to talk to his boss and find out why he’s being passed over. Ask her to set goals. Then when he completes those goals, he can possibly go above someone other than her if he is still being passed over for the promotions.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your husband needs to make himself stand out. He can not always be in the defense against the “loser”.

He needs to have a calm, sit down meeting with his boss with a “proactive” approach as to how he can improve his job performance and work towards a promotion- how can he be a better team player, what can he do to position himself for a promotion, etc.

From my personal experience, new bosses look to bring in outside people all the time- especially when they are making changes or, in your husband’s boss’ case, she is the new person and she is making her “imprint” on the company.

I’d also look into their job openings procedures- my company has to announce an opening internally- that means internal people can interview for it AND they can look outside to fill it.

I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but clearly he is not doing something “right” in the opinion of this boss. He needs to understand what it is and not blame the “loser”.

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