- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I need some advice from those with older parents or grandparents that they spend a lot of time with. Or maybe people with young kids — do kids do this too? I think some of them do.
Basically, my mother, who is only 51 years old, is starting to fray around the edges. It’s not that she’s actually legitimately senile, but … she CANNOT stop telling the same stories over and over again. The whole family went to their vacation home this weekend and I was going so crazy dealing with her that my patience level dropped to zero and I kept yelling at her and telling her to shut up, like some sort of sullen 14-year-old.
You see, even when she’s at her best, she likes to tell the same stories a lot. But then she drinks, and it’s like you can’t even stop her. You can say “mom, you already told me this.” You can fill in the entire rest of the story for her. And she still will not stop. She will tell the entire story again, at her own speed. It goes like this:
Mom: Did I ever tell you about the problems A has been having with her house?
Me: Yeah, she needs to move because her landlord found out about the daycare she was running and is mad that they have so many people over all the time.
Mom: She’s having problems with her landlord. I guess he’s upset about all the people they have over there, and really it’s a lot of people. And then she watches people’s kids during the day, but she doesn’t have a licensed daycare. Think of the insurance risk for him! It looks like she’s going to have to move.
Me: *shoots self in head*
Another example: on Friday night, my brother, his gf, and my husband all got hammered-drunk together. Then everyone went to bed, and my brother’s gf started sleepwalking. She came into my and DH’s room and tricked me out of the bed, then stole my spot and wouldn’t get up, and I had to try to wake up DH and my brother to get her out of there, but they were both drunk so it took like five minutes to wake them up, and there were all these shenanigans at 2am and the next day we were all laughing about it. Funny story, right? Well, by the end of the weekend, my mom had completely destroyed that story. She kept telling it and telling it, and spinning it around all crazy even though everyone she was telling was either involved in the story or had already heard it from me (the only sober awake one who remembered everything).
The funniest part of the story was that exactly one year prior, my sister was exactly the same amount pregnant as I am currently, and my brother sleepwalked into the exact same bedroom of that house and tried to steal my sister’s place in the bed the exact same way. Wow, what a coincidence! Now imagine that every two hours or so for three days, someone says “I just can’t believe that the exact same thing happened a year ago and now here it is happening again!” You might want to kill that person after a while.
I am running out of patience with my mom. And I know it hurts her feelings when we all shout “MOM SHUT UP JESUS CHRIST WE HAVE ALL HEARD THE STORY.” I honestly wonder if her brain is starting to come unglued and she doesn’t realize she’s already been over this same territory nine thousand times. But I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my mom — she’s awesome and I love her. She’s just a broken goddamned record.
Any advice on how to handle her without snapping all the time? I used to just drink until she wasn’t irritating anymore, but now I’m pregnant so I can’t do that 🙁 I need a new plan.