(Closed) I think my mom is having an affair…………

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

why dont you ask her out to lunch and just tell her what you saw and ask her?? i wouldnt make a huge deal about it till you know exactly whats going on 🙂

Post # 4
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well, that’s awkward,

But if I were you, I would keep my mouth shut. It isnt your business, it is your parents’.

Post # 5
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yeah definately ask her about it. be prepared for her to be pissed you were reading her emails though…. but i wouldnt freak out until you know what is REALLY going on.

Post # 6
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I actually think you should confront your mom, for sure! Can you imagine if this comes out and your Dad found out you had some inkling and didn’t say anything?? She may deny it all…which she probably will, but you need to ask her about it either way.

Post # 7
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well if she is using a family email account to carry on conversations of a questionable nature then she must know that someone will find them.  I would tell her you checked that account to see if she had read a previous email you sent her and that you saw those messages.  Ask her upfront what is going on and let her know your feelings.  I would suggest counseling to both her and them (her and your dad) as a couple.  Good luck!!!

Post # 8
581 posts
Busy bee

Is your wedding coming up in August?  If so, I’d certainly wait until after all the celebrations are done.  You don’t need any drama at this time.  I think if you don’t say anything, it will bother you immensely and be hard to be around both parents.  If you do talk to your mom, make sure it’s at the best time for you and have support ready for you after the discussion.

While many couples work out problems like this, be prepared for your parents to separate if your hunch is spot-on.  I’m sorry you have been put in the situation.  I wish you well.

Post # 9
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

whoa! yeah shes totally cheating.

i don’t know if i would ever be able to trust her again.

Post # 10
46374 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would keep my mouth shut especially with your wedding so close.

Do you really want to deal with all the drama with your wedding a month away?

Post # 13
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so sorry honey!!!!  I would have emailed him too if I were in your shoes.  I would, at your earliest convenience, talk to your mom and let her know you found the messages and you messaged the guy asking what was going on.  Let her explain everything and listen to her.  While she is not in the right to have stepped out on your dad she does have feelings and she for whatever reasons felt they were not being met.  Suggest counseling and try not to let this impact your relationship with her…. as hard as that is going to be.  Good luck!!!!

Post # 15
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It would take all the self control in my body to not say something to her right now. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.

Post # 16
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Miss Giraffe: I am so sorry this is happening. I’ve personally seen what this can do to families and while I understand the PP stating it is not your business, I actually disagree. I feel that when someone cheats, not only are you cheating on your spouse, but you are cheating on your family to. They are being lied to, they are being betrayed. Hence you have a right to know. Honestly, I would have emailed him too, but thats bc it takes me awhile to process things sometimes and I am more a heat of the moment gal. I am not sure if emailing her is best, I beleive a face to face talk is more appropriate however, I am worried he might say something to her regarding your email and she might rather hear it from you. I know that is not a clear answer from me, but I am still wrapping my head around this. I am so sorry, not just for you but for your father too. I just dont understand affairs, I really don’t.

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