- 8 years ago
…by my brother and especially his girlfriend. Just to get it out there, my bro is 20 and his Girlfriend is 24.
My brother lives with my parents. The only time he didn’t was when he went to a law enforcement academy for 8 months and he lived with me. This isn’t the problem as my brother works for my dad so, I’m assuming, they take out any expenses from any pay they give him. The problem is more his Girlfriend.
She’s recently moved back with her parents after finishing her education degree so she could be closer to my brother. But, it seems she’s at my parents more than hers. Everytime I talk to my Mum, she’s there (except the other day when I spoke to her about this). I’m not exaggerating when I say that she’s probably at her own parents maybe a 4-5 days max out of a month, maybe less. She doesn’t pay any rent, she eats their food, utilizes all the amentities and most recently (to my Mum’s horror) brought a puppy to KEEP at my parents place. Without asking. In the house (which is unheard of in my parents home, their dogs are strictly outdoors, except the garage).
That was the last straw for me. Already, I was starting to lose respect for her as whenever I went to visit my parents she would use my hair products, try on my clothes and dig through my stuff without asking me. But bringing a pup into someone else’s home that you expect to live there is just plain rude and disrespectful, that already has 3 cats in the house and 2 dogs outside (one of the cats has already beat the shit out of the pup). I’m not sure if she actually knows what she’s doing because she’s pretty dense, but still.
My Mum is not happy one iota, but I don’t know what it is as she’s usually a very outspoken person, but she won’t say a thing to my brother or his Girlfriend. I talked to DH about it and he thinks its because of the attachment that my Mum has to my brother that she won’t stand up for her and my Dad (I’m not sure where my Dad stands on the whole thing, but I’m also surprised he hasn’t spoken up). It may also be because they are severely generous.
Anyway, my dilemma is that I’m torn whether I should talk to my parents more about this and try to get them to see what’s actually going on here and how much they are being taken advantage of. Yes, they are adults and they can take care of themselves, but it seems their generosity is getting the better of them and I don’t even want to go out to visit them anymore because of her. At this point, I’d like to talk to my brother but unfortunately, he’s too immature to understand the gravity of the situation.
What do you bee’s think? Should I step up or keep my trap shut?