Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Tonight was our first night of RCIA class, I was so excited. My Fiance and I arrived on time were very polite participated in all of the activities. Everyone seemed to enjoy our company halfway through they class, there was a small break and refreshments served. I asked the Priest: If we could pop outside and call our sitter and check on the kids.
The Priest gave us a look and said “Pop Out”
After a 2 minute chat with our sitter we were back in class, while refreshments were still being served.
Then later in the meeting after we were told that we could leave. We said our good byes and after a minute I said: Well were going to slip out. The Priest repeated me again and said: Slip Out.
I really feel like The Priest is being very critical of me and I really feel like he doesn’t like me at all.
Bees please give me your opinion of what you think about my situation, do you think hates me? Do you have any ideas of how I can get on his good side?
Post # 3
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Helper bee
@ashasmith: To me it doesn’t sound like he hates you! Was there anything else he said or did?
Post # 4
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Honey bee
@ashasmith: it sounds like he just has an odd sense of humor… I don’t think he hates you
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I think he sounds like an awkward individual, but there’s nothing here that makes me think he dislikes you.
I don’t know how I’d respond to someone who asked me to leave briefly during a break, though. That’s the whole point of breaks. Maybe he’s trying to indicate that he doesn’t particularly care where you’re going. Not because he hates you but because he genuinely has no interest.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
In all seriousness, is he a foreign priest? At the other catholic churches in my area, there a a few priests who speak pretty poor English. They often misunderstand slang phrases.
Is it possible something like that was the case?
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
He does speak English and Spanish very well, he is from the USA. He has not said or done any thing cruel but he is not a very warm person.
When I asked to go outside to use the phone to I did it out of respect for the class, so we wouldn’t disturb anyone.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@ashasmith: It sounds like you’re worrying for no reason! You did nothing wrong. I’d bet he just expressed himself a bit oddly.
Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
@ashasmith: Did he know you had children prior to you mentioning it tonight? Some priest still hold very traditional values in regards to matters like that.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
He has know that I have had children already, they were baptized on Saturday and we attended Mass on Sunday. I also attend Mass on every Tuesday and Sunday.
Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
@ashasmith: Well then I think he probably just has a bad sense of humour!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
If this is an older gentleman he may be pondering the “new” phrases. I don’t think he hates you.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
he might have an odd sense of humor, he might just be saying something to say (so he doesnt look at you in silence). or he might not like you. hard to say, but doesnt sound like he has been mean
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
@MidwestBride2012: —> THIS
Altho you are trying to be polite (and I get that) … he probably wonders WHY it is you need to feel you have to tell him your plans in advance of doing something when you are technically on your own time (breaktime & class over)
If it was me in his shoes… first time, I’d think “well ok then”… second time, I’d be taken aback probably too.
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