I think my relationship is over

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I’m so sorry, Bee. This is horrible, and probably everyone here understands. 

This doesn’t feel good or right or true just now, but if the relationship isn’t working, then it’s right to let it go. You won’t feel good for a LONG while, and that’s okay. But you’ll see later that this opened you up to finding someone with whom you really flow. I have no doubt that words of comfort won’t help a whit right now, but they’re still probably true. 

If this is worth salvaging and if you both CAN and WANT to try, then give it a try. But if not, let yourself feel some pain for a while, and then start working toward a new life. 

Again, I AM sorry. But you’ll be okay, Bee. All of us have eventually been okay. 

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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thisisanonymousme :  

Ouch.  There aren’t too many things that hurt more than the end of a love affair.  Let yourself grieve and be extra gentle with yourself.

It is a cliche, but a good one, when they say that time heals all wounds.  It’s nearly impossible for you to imagine it now, but time will work it’s special magic for you.

Meanwhile, baby yourself for awhile.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

it is scary to end something that has been at the core of your everyday life for 6 years, and tempting to stay in a situation that isn’t really working just because it is familiar.  my only advice is give yourself permission to miss him and a bit a feel unsure after breaking it off. break ups are difficult even when they are right and you’ll remember all the good times, because i’m sure there were many. it doesn’t mean you’ve made a mistake. trust your instincts, bee. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m so sorry bee. I can absolutely relate to the feeling of being “sick and numb” at the same time – that’s exactly how I felt when I ended my last relationship. You’re gonna get through this. I’m glad you told a few friends – don’t hesitate to lean on them for support. I will be thinking of you. Just remember that as bleak as everything looks today, you’re future is BRIGHT. You can now start the healing process and when you’re ready, you can meet someone who is a much better fit than your ex and go on to have a happy, fulfilling relationship. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I am so sorry that this has happened. You have to let time take it’s course. This way, you can think and evaluate the pros and cons of your relationship (if it is salvagable). If he is not respectful or doing things that make it so bad that you guys have to break up, I personally do not think that you should go on with the marriage right now until you know that he is willing to make things work. Marriage might seem glamourlike but in actuality, it is a lifetime commitment that comes with ups and downs. Is he able to hang if something happens where you need his support? If you get sick, would he be there for you? If you are finacial distress, would he hold it down until things get better? If an important decision is to be made, would he leave you hanging? These are a few questions that I believe you should think about before going through with this and know that after the bells and whistles, life happens. No one has a perfect relationship (unless they just started dating). What matterrs is how you are able to handle situations. If you guys can’t discuss differences without breaking up or giving up, imagine when real life happens? I wish you all of the best and I hope that you take the time to reflect and ultimately, make a decision that is best for you. Peace and blessings Bee

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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thisisanonymousme :  I am sorry to hear this bee but sometimes when it comes to this point you know deep down it is all happening for the right reasons. It is tough to start over but think of it as the best gift you can ever give yourself. A fresh start, time to work on yourself, and ultimately freedom to find the person that is 100% right for you. Big hugs. 

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Busy bee

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thisisanonymousme :  how are you holding up? have you guys spoken since the fight?

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