Post # 1
So today I had to spend more time with children than I have in a looong time, and let me tell you I am not the least prepared to be a parent. I simply am not. The thought of children’s bdays, of having to baby talk for hours a day, and of losing my freedom is just terrifying.
My husband and I have decided we want to have a child (ren?!?) in the future, but being exposed to so many children today totally freaked me out. I am 25. He is 33. Does this feeling ever go away?
Post # 3
I’m 28 and I feel the same. I don’t know if its going to change or not. I’m rather on the fence about kids. 79% on the side if terrified.
Post # 4
I’m under the general consensus that children suck.
Post # 5
@HappySky7: The worst part is this children were actually well behaved, and it still FREAKED me out. I feel extremely awkward around them, and just do not know how to interact with little ones.
I think I will be a good parent and will definitely love my own child, but the thought of having to interact with other children not my own (inevitable if you become a parent) and having little gatherings with other mothers i would not otherwise share time with makes me super uncomfortable and is not at all appealing.
Post # 6
I feel the same, 25 and I feel like I’m not ready for kids at all. I visited my friend who has a 3 yr old and a 3 moth old and her house was full of baby things everywhere, it was chaos trying to feed both and bathing etc I was there for an hr and left sooooo drained!!!!
I’m not ready to give up my free time/money etc yet, way too selfish!
its stupid but I also worry about things in the future, like what if they have disabilities or learning difficulties or get bullied or my daughter develops an eating disorser or anything that can happen in ones life. It’s soooooo scary!!!!
Post # 7
@Hyperventilate: +1, I just don’t want one.
@AngelR88: I’m the same way – I have no idea what to do around children. They’re not like normal people, they’re weird little beings whose ages/interests I have the worst time guessing at.
Post # 8
@AngelR88: As a parent I can tell you that I love my own kid but I am definitely awkward around other people’s kids. I just have NO IDEA what to do with them or how to interact with other moms. I definitely understand your concerns. It’s hard being the weird antisocial mom :/
Post # 9
I can’t even fathom the idea of being a parent. Just not for me. I can’t stand baby talk and playing kiddie games. I was never into babies & I highly doubt that’s going to change.
Post # 10
I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way. All the parents seemed so into every child in the room. I literally started reading from my Kindle. Rude, I know, but I got tired of just staring at children lol. My husband seemed so well adjusted, though. Little scary!
Post # 11
I do want kids, but I won’t be baby talking or having my entire existence revolve around them. It is important to remain a wife as well as a mother. I think children are an important addition to a family – at least to our family – but I am not obsessed with TTC. If we can’t have a healthy baby on our own, I will not go to the ends of the earth to change that. We will travel and get dogs.
Post # 12
@HeyKaraoke: This is so true. My kids are awesome. It’s the other peoples kids that I get weird around.
Post # 13
@Rubbs: THIS! I’m 99% sure I’m not going to have kids. I just call myself CBC (childfree by choice).
Post # 14
@angela85: Then maybe there is some hope for me. :/