(Closed) I think my wedding is falling apart

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Msmarie31: Not that it really matters since you already fired everyone, but people have lives outside of your wedding.  Sometimes you have to bend your schedule for the bridal party when it comes to dresses.  They are spending money and time on you and your Fiance.  They are doing you the favor, not the other way around.  Like PP said, you are the common denominator.

As far as the Best Man’s wife, she probably doesn’t want to be your stand in and is avoiding you.

You should probably move forward and plan without a bridal party.


Post # 18
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

And some punctuation in your posts would be nice! Commas are your friend.

Post # 19
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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Msmarie31:  were you expecting all the BMs to be at the same dress appt together? thats very difficult to do. I went back to the dress shop 3 times with all 3 BMs. Your wedding is not as important to everyone else as it is to you. It speaks volumes that you kicked 4 BMs out. I’m hoping these weren’t close friends. If I were them, I’d probably write you off after this. Kicking one Bridesmaid or Best Man out… ok, but your entire bridal party? That’s on you.

Post # 20
910 posts
Busy bee

I’m not surprised they wouldn’t miss a hair appointment or kids karate class. Did you make the appointment and expect them to cancel???


Post # 21
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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Msmarie31:  Did you consult them before making the appointment? Who exactly was supposed to pick up your BM’s kid if she didn’t? I’m confused because you mentioned schedules first and now you’re mentioning money.

Like I said before, there is nothing wrong with not having a bridal party. At this point you should just move forward without one.

Post # 22
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

What kind of asshole wants to take her child to karate?  Clearly your friend doesn’t have her priorities straight.

Post # 23
3208 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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Msmarie31:  if the best man’s wife wasn’t enthusiastic when you spoke to her initially, then you need to leave her alone. The poor woman is probably running out of ways to avoid you.

Move forward without a bridal party.

Post # 24
853 posts
Busy bee

They have a schedule too you know. And it doesn’t revolve around your wedding. It’s that little thing called LIFE. People have responsibilities and priorities and I’m sorry to say that a dress appointment for a friend’s wedding usually isn’t top of the list when you’re a working adult with a family. 

People need to realise that having someone in your Bridal party doesn’t mean you’re doing them a favour. Quite the opposite in fact – YOU are the one benefitting from their time, resources and efforts so a little consideration on your part, re: hectic, adult schedules would not have gone amiss.


Post # 25
510 posts
Busy bee

Go without anyone on your side, you’ve done your best to make it that way anyway. This way, you’ll be able to attend all the appointments you make and don’t have to worry about other people’s pesky families or appointments. I mean, can you imagine how selfish this woman you’re trying to include could wind up being if she, say, winds up with a death in the family? She’d probably even go the funeral, that hussy.

Post # 26
1772 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Wow. This sounds pretty crazy. the bride hasn’t gone w all bridesmaids to try on dresses in any of the weddings I’ve been in. For 1, one girl tried on and bride narrowed choices down and sent out pics from salon for others to look at online. For another, the bride went w the girls who could be there, chose, and then the others bought the dress on their own.

i don’t see any reason to kick somebody (not to mention all four bridesmaids?!) out of bridal party just because they’re busy or have schedules that don’t work for you to go to salon with each of them. 

and now you’re flipping out about not being able to get in touch w the best man’s wife 76 days before the wedding? Does she even have to get some new specific dress if she’s your only bridesmaid? Are you even close friends with her?  Your wedding doesn’t sound like it is falling apart at all, but it does sound like youve been flipping out at your bridal party. I suggest chilling out and leaving this woman alone for a few days Or a couple weeks. 

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