Post # 1
I think my wedding day sucked. Ok let me clarify. The best thing in the world happen for me that day—I married the love of my life. However, the rest sucked.
Tomorrow will be 3 weeks since my wedding and I have no had one person tell me anything nice about it. In fact, one of the groomsmen yesterday informed me he would never go to another wedding again after going to mine.
My bipolar Mother-In-Law showed her ass the whole time. She refused to take any pictures. Out of 1,972 pictures that were taken between two photographers she is in 3. At one point in time she was asked to hug my husband and she screamed out that she could not hug him because he was too fat to get her arms around. My husband is not fat at all. He is 6’5’’. He’s just a big guy. She cussed out the caterer, the bartender and the photographer. During the reception while guests were eating I went to take a few bridal portraits. She came to where the photographer and I were, stood between us and told us that we were not allowed to take any more pictures that she was sick of pictures and her son was eating with his groomsmen at his wedding reception. She was so rude to my family that several aunts and uncles left early. I have posted about this woman before you can read her background here if interested (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/really-about-to-lose-my-temper-on-fmil#axzz2RZUV4Iv4) Even our photographer was taken back by this woman. And she’s one of the sweetest most Christian people I know!
Two hours before the wedding my crazy aunt called all her side of the family (about 30 guests I was expecting to attend) and told them her husband (some of their step-fathers) was dying and would not make it through the night. So of course that side of the family did not come. I was not upset at the time at all. That was completely understandable. HOWEVER, the problem now is I found out it was a lie. He DOES have cancer but is going through treatment and has a good chance of recovery. The aunt admitted that she wanted to see if her family loved her and would give up anything if she needed them so she said he was dying. Yeah….that really happened. So, 30 people were a no show. Considering we were only having about 70 guests total that really cut down on everything. I’m really upset because we paid $24 a plate per person and at this time we could not change it because the food was cooked and there!
My brother who got married that Monday at the court house (He said he got married to take away from my day) did not come to the wedding because his new trashy wife wouldn’t allow it.
I have not received one compliment about my wedding from ANYONE. In fact, when someone mentions anything about the wedding to me it’s to tell me what they felt was wrong. Everyone tells me how sorry they are I have to deal with his mom for the rest of my life. And then one of the groomsmen made that comment yesterday.
It just sucks. I want to cry now just thinking about it. But it’s over and done with…there is nothing I can do about it. I haven’t seen the pics yet but hopefully they will look like it was a happy day. 🙁
Post # 3
Do a second wedding, renew your vows. Book a holiday for you and your husband ONLY for say, a years time! Fly off somewhere amazing and do it again without the pain in the a$$ family.
I am so sorry all of these things happened to you and I can totally understand why you are so upset. But please please don’t let it get to you too much. You are married now and you wouldn’t be if it where not for that day stay possitive!
Post # 4
@EnglishWifey: Agree. Just grab Darling Husband and run off to a beach, just the two of you. Take some beautiful photos and pretend that the first one never happened.
PS. I am SO sorry that your family behaved that way! No offence but I would have been cussing them out if someone dared to mess around like that, I mean I’d have kicked Mother-In-Law out and called your aunt and told her to explain herself. I’d have gone bridezilla on their asses. You have handled this with amazing grace, and for that I admire you.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@ashleyr0512: Do a mini-moon somewhere nice and renew your vows just you and your husband. Make that the wedding you think of at anniversaries.
Post # 6
Geez, yes I agree. If there is anyone who deserves a 2nd wedding it’s you!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry. That does sound terrible – not because the WEDDING was terrible, but because your GUESTS were terrible.
I don’t know if this will encourage you at all, but one of the coolest women I know told me at my bachelorette party that she HATED her wedding. She hated how she looked (she’s gorgeous, btw), the families were a wreck, she said it was just awful.
Yet, she has an amazing life. Her and her husband are fantastic together, she has the most beautiful baby girl, she has an amazing career, she is fun and has tons of friends – her life is very enviable! So I was shocked to hear she hated her wedding. To be honest, in some ways it really took the pressure off me. You don’t have to love your wedding to have it be the start to an amazing life.
I’m really sorry you had that happen. And I believe that even a terrible wedding can be the start to a fantastic life.
Post # 8
OH MY GOD. I am sooooo sorry!!! No offense, but the family you’ve mentioned sound like a bunch of jerks :-/
Good God. YES, have a second wedding!! You totally deserve it!! Time to create some happy memories 🙂
Post # 9
First of all, congratulations on your marraige!
This obviously would not actually be helpful to the situation, but I would totally be tempted to send your Aunt a bill for the guests who didn’t attend because of what she did!
There was a fight between the best man and a guest at the end of my sister’s wedding. For a while we could really only associate the wedding with the fight (and the ensuing legal action they best man took against my family members as hosts). Over time though, the bad memories melted away and now we remember the good (like my super awesome Maid/Matron of Honor speech!) I agree, do something special for you and your new husband to help make up for what happen if you want, but also remember that overtime I’m pretty sure you will remember the good over the bad!
Also, you might want to start distancing yourself from some of these crazy family members!
Post # 10
@EnglishWifey: seconded. it sounds like you need to cut most of your – and his – family loose. make a vacation with just you and your husband and go renew your vows – in your dress! – somewhere warm and tropical just the two of you and get lots of happy photos taken. 🙂
Post # 11
Holy crap, do a 2nd wedding with just you and Darling Husband away from everyone!
Also your crazy aunt lying about your not dying uncle, I’d call her and rip her a new one and tell her how much money she cost you by lying to 30 guests. She should know that cost you over $700 in uneaten food. What a bitch.
Your Mother-In-Law good god don’t even get me started. Just try to stay away from that crazy.
Post # 12
I think you would feel so much better if you told the Future Mother-In-Law & Aunt what you are holding in…a release, if you will. Yeah, they’ll probably make it into a big dramatic whatever but who cares, sounds like they live off drama. Tell them how you feel and leave it at that. AND YES, do the renewal with just you and hubby!!!
Post # 13
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. I would totally do a vow renwal some place fabulous. Screw them for their selfishness.
Post # 14
Oh Honey I read your post and I cried. It reminded me of my Mother In law who almost ruinned my wedding. I am saying almost because after a few months I have managed to forgive and put it all behind me.
I have a post about I hate my mother in law and all the things that went wrong with my wedding.
First of all the aunt who pulled the STUNT…….us out dont speak to her anymore because you dont need people like that in your life.
Like some bees sugested doing a photoshoot and have a nice day with your hubby is a great Idea. The important thing is that you married the man you love. It took me a long long long long long long time to get over it.
For me the photoshoot project has really really helped
I had been dreaming of the perfect wedding since I was 3 years old and it was less than perfect. My husband barely spoke to me during the honeymoon….thats how mad we were at each other.I am sorry people dont have nice things to say about your wedding. I am sure the cake was nice! There is always something nice to say about weddings.
You could go to vegas and do it all over again.
Post # 15
@EnglishWifey: this, absolutely this! I’m so sorry this happened to you. Every bride deserves to feel like a princess. Fly off somewhere gorgeous and renew just the two of you, take your dress, get your hair done and sparkle. It’s you and your man that count, make new memories! Hugs x
Post # 16
@EnglishWifey: omg yes yes yes!
@ashleyr0512: do what @englishwifey says. you deserve it. that is the best advice anyone can give you.