(Closed) I think she has a crush on my DH

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@lovesseaturtles:  Normally I would say ignore it, but since you seem to see her on a somewhat regular basis I am actually going to suggest you find a way to politely confront her about it.  That’s really weird for someone to act that way towards another person completely unprovoked.  Maybe the next time you see her in a casual setting (happy hour?) buy her a drink and try to have a conversation about it?  That sucks that she is around your husband so often!  I can’t imagine acting that way towards one of my coworkers spouses!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It may just be my personality but I would confront her. Not about her  wanting my hubby but about why she’s so rude to me.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

@lovesseaturtles:  If you are good with being direct, why not say something like:  “I have to ask, do you have a problem with me?”

I, on the other hand, could not be that direct, and would probably go out of my way to get to know her.  Kill her with kindness, so to speak.

ETA:  I’ve known girls to give other girls the death stare because they are intimidated.  Maybe she thinks you are beautiful/amazing/anything – and is looking in awe.  It sounds funny when I type it – but do you know what I mean?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

oooh I would have called the bitch out already by now! I don’t tolerate rude shit like that without a word.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@strawbs:  +1 

Do it Southern style. Get your sweetest, kindest voice out with a really caring facial expression and just ask her, “Is your problem with me that you find me intimidating, or that I’m MARRIED to someone you’re oh so inappropriately crushing on and realize that he’ll never love you like he does me? You know, just so I have an EXACT reason why to think you’re being a heinous bitch.”

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@lovesseaturtles:  Just having a conversation with her about how she is treating you at a non-work related event (like happy hour) should have ZERO affect on DH’s job (unless she’s his boss!) 🙂  And, I’m not saying be all catty/bitch-fight about it – just be frank – kind of like:  are you ok?  was there something that happened that I wasn’t aware of, because I’m getting strange vibes from you….. but, the reality is – if your instinct is right, then I’d probably just rub it in her face and be all sweet and loving toward my husband (and drive her nuts) 🙂 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

@lovesseaturtles:  that’s what I worry about…how it would impact your husband if you say something. She sounds crazy. I think it’s good your husband is aware of how she is behaving.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

@oracle:  I like this idea.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

This actually happens A LOT…women love Mr. 99, he’s tall, handsome, blonde with blue eyes and bulging bicepts and women literally cannot restrain themselves…they just go nuts for him…luckily, my pure country husband is so totally oblivious to their attention, fllirtation and weird grapples for his affection, that he honestly thinks there’s something totally wrong with them on a level that requires medication or better shoes…

If a broad is taking it a little too far, and I’m pretty easy going about it, flirt with him all you want, you have a better chance at parting the Red Sea than getting him to notice you…I take things to a really childish and futile level and spill things on them and trip them when they walk by…eventually they figure out what’s going on, that he’s married and I’m weary of their desperate hyjinx and find someone else to moon over.

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