(Closed) I think SO has cold feet

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Very worthy vent. I can imagine how frustrated you must be about the whole situation. Especially because as you said, it’s still an unofficial engagement.

I think it’s time to be brutally honest with one another, IMO. If he is suggesting marraige dates, then he can be mature enough to be real with you. Ask him straight up “What’s the problem?” At times it’s best to be aggressive, and I think your situation warrants it.

You need to know if this is what he wants. If he wants marriage, he needs to commit to something and stop leading on and dragging his feet.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ouch 🙁

Did he have an issue with getting engaged in the first place or anything? And I agree, time for serious talk I think :/

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Part of my talk with my SO about engagement timeline included wedding timeline. You don’t want to get engaged thinking/wanting you want to be married within, say, 6 months, when HE’S thinking 2 years! That would make for a very unhappy engagment for sure. We compromised on the engagement timeline (I wanted it sooner than he was planning) but I agreed that his original idea for when we’d have the wedding wouldn’t change. Compromise and communication. You’re definitely upset for good reason.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Honestly OP, dont take this the wrong way but I’ve been pretty confused by your posts. I don’t understand your “unofficial” engagement. What does that mean? If you’re both planning to get married in a month, doesn’t that make you engaged? What kind of wedding or ceremony are you planning that only takes a month to execute? 

Sorry about the 20 questions, I dont mean to scrutinize you, I’m just genuinely curious.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

 Ohh, that makes sense! It is a complicated situation to try to explain, but I understand now. I hope you two come to an agreement soon, especially since you’ve been waiting for two years 😛

Good luck! 🙂

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Okay, I’m sorry, but I can’t get past that I have no idea what SO is an abbreviation for.

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ha!  Okay, Clearly I’m new to this site.  It seem everyone abbreviates everything and, often, I cannot figure out what they are referring to!  Thansk for clearing that up.

 

 

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