Post # 1
Ok from some of my older posts. SO and I had talked about getting married this month. We have been unoffically engaged for almost 2 years now. Well I finally broke down last night and said. Ok when are we getting married. I have to change my license here very soon. And was holding off, but time is nearing out on that. Plus I’m so tired of people always asking me when is the date? I keep on saying we haven’t set a date yet. Which we haven’t, but back in December he was saying we should think about January. Well this month is almost over. Plus I started a new job. That I work 11 hour days. So it’s not that easy for us to both be able to go to the court house to apply for our marriage license. Well today is one of the few days I am off. He told me last night. Well find out what we need to do to start the process then we’ll set a date. Since the license is good for 30 days. Well I called today to find out the info. I told him and he seemed like he was dragging his feet. Of course he missed the 5 o’clock time line. I’m just frustrated. Sorry for the long vent!
Post # 3
Very worthy vent. I can imagine how frustrated you must be about the whole situation. Especially because as you said, it’s still an unofficial engagement.
I think it’s time to be brutally honest with one another, IMO. If he is suggesting marraige dates, then he can be mature enough to be real with you. Ask him straight up “What’s the problem?” At times it’s best to be aggressive, and I think your situation warrants it.
You need to know if this is what he wants. If he wants marriage, he needs to commit to something and stop leading on and dragging his feet.
Post # 4
Did he have an issue with getting engaged in the first place or anything? And I agree, time for serious talk I think :/
Post # 5
Part of my talk with my SO about engagement timeline included wedding timeline. You don’t want to get engaged thinking/wanting you want to be married within, say, 6 months, when HE’S thinking 2 years! That would make for a very unhappy engagment for sure. We compromised on the engagement timeline (I wanted it sooner than he was planning) but I agreed that his original idea for when we’d have the wedding wouldn’t change. Compromise and communication. You’re definitely upset for good reason.
Post # 6
Honestly OP, dont take this the wrong way but I’ve been pretty confused by your posts. I don’t understand your “unofficial” engagement. What does that mean? If you’re both planning to get married in a month, doesn’t that make you engaged? What kind of wedding or ceremony are you planning that only takes a month to execute?
Sorry about the 20 questions, I dont mean to scrutinize you, I’m just genuinely curious.
Post # 7
Thanks girls! You all are great! SO and I had a talk and now we’re on the same page.
@KittenB Sorry some of my posts are a little confusing.lol It’s sometimes hard to explain things on here. Especially our situation. SO proposed to me almost two years ago, but there was no ring and I wasn’t even sure he was serious. Since we had only been dating only a couple of weeks. Sometimes he would introduce me as his Fiance and then sometimes it was his Girlfriend. So I stayed confused. We broke up for a short period of time. The beginning of last year. Long story and then got back together, but marriage was never brought up until this past November. So I had no idea where we stood. So I guess my unoffical engagement meant not sure where we stood as a couple and there was never a for sure Fiance classification nor a ring. Hope that makes sense?lol
Post # 8
Ohh, that makes sense! It is a complicated situation to try to explain, but I understand now. I hope you two come to an agreement soon, especially since you’ve been waiting for two years 😛
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 9
Okay, I’m sorry, but I can’t get past that I have no idea what SO is an abbreviation for.
Post # 11
Ha! Okay, Clearly I’m new to this site. It seem everyone abbreviates everything and, often, I cannot figure out what they are referring to! Thansk for clearing that up.