Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
with me. Seriously. I have talked with my Fiance about this but I would like to hear what you bees have to say. Before I had my daughter, I was not really the emotional type. I was very blunt and straight forward and never got caught up in emotions and now (lasting 4 years) I feel like it all I do. I don’t know if it was my pregnancy, or the fact that I got Mirena and that has had some kind of effect on me… but I just feel like something is wrong. I get emotional about stories that I read.. and think about them long after. If it is something that I see it is much worse. I saw that video of the little chinese girl being run over..and even just typing it now makes me burst into tears. I don’t know why I replay these things in my head. I have since stopped exposing myself to new stimuli that might trigger a reaction…but I still have all of these old things in my mind. It is usually child related or related to the loss of a family member or Fiance. DO you guys think that there is actually something wrong or that I have just become a softy after having a baby? I thought that things would go back to normal after the baby so I gave myself some time.. but nothing went back to normal.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@MrsNeutrino: Honestly, I think this is a natural change we women go through. I have not had a child yet, but my step son lives with us. In the last 2 years, my emotional state has changed…a lot. I cry at everything, I think about death a lot; of my parents, partner, my dog. A song on the radio will make me cry. I used to have an iron stomach, now violence makes me near physially ill. I think it’s age, maturity, and having a child to take care of, it flicks a switch in our brains and makes us softer, more connected. I used to be really tough, but now little things I used to shrug off hurt me, and it takes me longer to get over them.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with you, I think maybe you are just changing as you grow. But if you are really worried, maybe find a counsellor you can talk to. Maybe you just need the reassurance from a professional that what you feel is normal.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
@Take The Reins: OK, it makes me feel a little better knowing I am not the only person. I seriously used to not be bothered by anything.. but I tear up at every little thing now.. even happy things! I thought it could be related to the Mirena.. but maybe not? I must admit, I don’t like these changes at all. I hate them actually.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Birth control can have that effect on you. I had to change mine because it was making me a basketcase!! Now that you are a mom, stories or videos of children will pull at your emotions. Its natural! Alot of newer moms I know get like that. I think your totally normal!
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I think you are totally normal! I can’t even think about some things with out crying… It is usually in my car when I am driving and have time to think. Videos like that usually leave me bawling. I even cried during the Tigger movie…. Tigger had no family and it was really sad….
In other words I think that having a baby turned you into a big softie and there is nothing wrong with you.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Sounds to me like it might just be part of being a mom. I’m not a mom, but I work very closely with children and since starting to do that even I feel a lot different about things. Car accidents, slippery roads, the way other people treat their children in public are all VERY difficult for me to deal with emotionally where they weren’t before I started working with them.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
It’s totally a mom thing. I saw a commercial for beauty and the beast and cried. I saw one for freakin’ toilet paper and cried! I look at my son and want to cry. I’m with you on hating the mom changes. Before I maybe cried once a year…now it’s about once a day I’m wiping tears from my eyes. I think its based on love for our children. Its different than the love I have for Fiance. And it makes me more emotional towards everything. You’re not alone and it’s totally normal.
Also, what helps me during phases when I get super emotional (they usually last 6 or so months for me) is an antidepressant. It’s not a depression thing, but it helps regulate my mood so I don’t start crying at work because a client says something incredibly endearing lol. I want t say again that I don’t think you’re depressed, or I’m depressed, but it’s a mom thing. And happy caps help me be more even keeled when I’m going through the emotional cycles of motherhood.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
@Ashley_B: I could understand if I were a new mom.. my kid is 4 going on 40. I seriously don’t feel like myself most times. I really want it out to see if it helps…
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@MrsNeutrino: Sorry! wasnt sure! But talking to your doctor about a new form of birthcontrol may be a good idea. Just let him/her know exactly whats going on, switching helped me alot.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
It could totally be the BC. Damn hormones making me all girly-senstive and what not.
It also could be all the stress you are under, that will also make you more emotional/ senstive to stimuli.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
You bees are making me feel a whole lot better! I just want to stop crying already! I want to go back to the days where nothing phased me.. If someone did something bad to me, they were cut out forever.. it is so much easier than caring about society and what not.
@imalittlebirdie: it COULD be the stress, you are right. For some reason.. that never occured to me :-/ strange..
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
It will be ok Mrs. N! *hugs*
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
I am not on BC but know from experience stress and hormones are a hot combination. I’d talk to yur doctor about changing your BC, and also maybe trying out yoga or something to help you relax.
Also, weight gain can put your hormones out of whack big time. I was really struggling with depression and anxiety, hormonal swings (mood, emotions) until I stated getting fit again and losing weight. My cycles have evened out, my moods are better, I don;t feel so bleak about my life. Made a big difference overall to my mental stability.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
I used to be the same way…and I still am to a point, but as I got older the more emotional I became..I am not a mom. Perhaps it is a part of growing up
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Before I had my daughter, I would only cry if someone close to me died. I never cried over breakups, fights, stress, nothing.
After having a baby I cry at anything from Pampers commercials to magazine articles about stray animals. It’s totally normal!
