(Closed) I think Super Bridesmaid is faking it ….

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Stace126:  I would say something. But before you jump down her throat and assume she was faking it all….it could be a huge misinterpretation. 

I know you never asked her, but maybe somehow in her head she thought it was expected? And or maybe shes the type of person who goes above and beyond and then realizes shes in over her head and doesn’t know how to ask about scaling it down in the aftermath. Maybe she even started doing it to be nice and then overtime her perception somehow grew to think you expected it (whether or not you did anything to purposely create that viewpoint). Sometimes these things are as simple as people come to the same situation with different perceptions of it and assume our own perception matches up with the other person’s!

It sounds like at this point she is a bit overwhelmed. I would give her the benefit of the doubt that somehow things weren’t communicated properly. Take her out to dinner, just as friends. Bring up how extrememly grateful you are for all that she’s done, but that you feel like she has done enough for awhile and would like her to take a break and just enjoy her time with you! If this goes alrlight and she seems to come around – then problem solved! 

If it continues then bring up and ask her why she has distanced herself from you.  


Post # 4
8684 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Why not just leave the wedding out of it and as a friend ask her if everything is ok? Mention that she seems stressed and that you are worried about her. You could even ask if there is anything you can do to help ease her pressure.

She probably doesn’t want to let you down and is feeling very pressured.

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