Post # 1
You know, the first month you don’t get pregnant.
Then again at three months when everyone says, “Oh, I know SO MANY people who got pregnant by three months.”
And then again at six months. “Oh, YES, nearly EVERYONE is pregnant by six months!”
That’s when it’s been the hardest for me. AF is knocking on my door, and this is our six month. I’m feeling incredibly down and out about it. I called my doctor’s office to discuss a possible LP defect, but was told that 10 days was long enough and that “when you stop worrying about it, that’s when you’ll get pregnant!”
I’m sick, sick, sick of all those stupid little adages that everyone has for you while TTC.
Mother Nature is awfully cruel for having such a terrible let down happen at one of the most hormonal times of the month 🙁
I just needed to vent since one of my friends is pregnant and refuses to hear anything about our TTC journey now, my other friend is dealing with serious health complications, and yet another friend has just decided that her high school-style drama is WAY more important than everything else. OH, and Darling Husband is out of town for work. Blah.
Post # 3
O no. I’m really, really sorry. I can’t imagine how frustrated and sad you are but I CAN imagine that the milestones are the roughest.
Post # 4
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’d give you some pithy line, but I don’t think that would help. Good luck, and hang in there!
Post # 5
Sorry that you are feeling down. I am in my 12th cycle TTC and it was hard after the first couple months, but it really got hard for me in the 8th cycle. It honestly doesn’t get any easier, and I, too, wish I had a support system outside of the Bee. It’s really hard having people tell you to relax or don’t worry and it will happen. But I hope it gets better for you!!!
Post # 6
“when you stop worrying about it, that’s when you’ll get pregnant!”
First, I just want to say that was stupid of your doctor to say (it even sounds stupid). Second, I am so sorry. I doubt it is easy. It took my mom a long time to get pregnant and stay pregnant, but she did eventually.
I hope your luck changes soon. Fingers crossed and hang in there!
Post # 7
I’m sorry 🙁
Hopefully it works out for you soon!
Post # 8
I think I would have punched that doctor in the face.
“Just don’t want it so much and it will happen!”
Yeah, because it’s JUST SO EASY to magically not want a baby any more!
Post # 9
@kate02121: They really are. I’ve actually been pretty okay about it for the last few months. But this month. Ugh.
@megz06: It was actually her nurse that said that. But when I went in a few weeks ago, the doctor said something rather simliar to that–so yeh, same thing. I just hope it happens. I’m terrified of what happens when it just…doesn’t. I’m such a worrier.
@BrandNewBride: It was her nurse that said that…but RIGHT? I HATEEEEE that. Or when people start saying that God doesn’t want it to happen yet. So really? You’re sayign that God thinks I am not ready when my 15 year old student that is pregnant IS? People can be so insensitive.
@lindsayandchris09: I hope it happens for you, too! It’s so frustrating. I don’t get where people get off saying such ridiculous things to someone who is obviously in pain. 🙁
Post # 10
@Peffy: The doctor told me something very similar this morning “don’t think about it, stop worrying and then it will happen” I was so mad!
Hang in there and I have my fingers crossed that this will be your month!!
Post # 11
@Peffy: Whoa, I think I would come unhinged if someone fed me some line about “God doesn’t want it to happen yet.” That is total crap. We don’t always know why it doesn’t happen right away for some couples, and I feel like saying “it’s God’s will” is smug, arrogant, and totally doesn’t help anyone or make people feel better. Good for you for not slapping whoever said that square in the face.
I’m only just now on my second month of TTC, so I can’t say I totally know what you’re going through, but you have my complete sympathy. And I agree that it’s a real kick-you-when-you’re-already-down situation that the sign that you’re not pregnant is that you have to deal with AF for the next several days. Way to really pile it on, Nature.
Hugs to you.
Post # 12
Ugh, we have just started TTC/NTNP so I don’t have a ton of advice, but I do hope that things turn around for you and you get that bfp!
I tried to see my doctor before TTC as I had some concerns (hypothyroid and maybe PCOS) and I couldn’t get an appointment with my regular doctor. The nurse practitioner I saw instead told me that I shouldn’t worry about it since I’m so young anyway, and if something is wrong they won’t know unless it doesn’t happen. WTF? So frustrating!
I think people try to be encouraging, but it doesn’t help. I hope that everything works our for you 🙂
Post # 13
For me the worst milestone was a month before my bfp. We had been trying for 10 months and I cried for two days when I randomly thought that had we suceeded when we started I would be holding my baby right now. I know what your going through and I hope you get your bfp and baby in your arms soon.
Post # 14
@Turtle Bride: Sigh. It’s not. Just received AF. On 10DPO. So, yep. Super short LP. Lame. I hope THIS month is yours<3
@IAmTheShadow: Sometimes, I’m amazed by myself for not totally flipping out on people for the ridiculous things they say about TTC. I’ve gotten to where I don’t even mention it around anyone anymore because I get tired of their stupid little sayings and “encouraging” words. Second month or sixth month, it’s all hard 🙁
Post # 15
I feel ya 100%.after Christmas we will be in our 4th year of ttc (can ya call it “trying” after four years?i think its more like hump and hope haha)and i lost my shit at my consultant not too long ago when he said,and i quote, “well your only 25,your young and have plenty of time for it to happen naturally.” to explain, my dh will be 30 in feb and he doesn’t want to try past him turning 31 (for personal reasons). And so i went into a (quite OTT) tyrade of how it wasn’t just me the consultant should be taking into consideration etc etc.
Also,after being diagnosed with blocked tubes,a part of me did want to tell him “oh plenty of time for it to happen naturally huh? I don’t think so!” but i didn’t want him to think Im rude 😉
Post # 16
@family_girl: That is utterly ridiculous! People keep telling me the same thing. I’m 26, as is my Darling Husband. But we started trying now for a reason. We wanted to be pregnant and done with our kids by 30. At this rate, though, it doesn’t seem like it will happen.
I can’t even imagine how your doctor thought that was appropriate to say. I don’t think I would have been able to hold back quite as well as you did.