- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
While we had Aug 3rd 2013 as our wedding date, it was really just a part of the 5 night, 6 day wedding jamboree extravaganza. Almost a week in the mountains with food, fun, music, outdoors, etc. It all sounds amazing, and we were both looking forward to it… but goodness, I was starting to get stressed out! We have a wide-spread group of friends who will attend the event, have fun, and be low maintenance.
But… the thought of trying to host/accommodate my family, his family, and other random people who would come just out of obligation for 6 days was overwhelming and stressful. FI kept talking about how the wedding itself is less important to him; it’s the overall celebration that matters. And I was already, this far out, getting sucked into the details. Trying to get every last detail decorated or planned or whatever. Combine that with a number of life event changes coming down the pike for Fiance and I, and it was already feeling like too much.
We talked about it last night, and we came to the conclusion that we would still have our big party, but we’ll get married before, by ourselves, and the party will just be celebrating the marriage. This will ensure that those who would have only come for the wedding won’t come, and Fiance and I can focus on just enjoying ourselves and those who choose to come and celebrate.
We’re thinking of doing a weekend get-away on the Oregon coast, probably still next summer, and getting married either on the beach or on a hike with cliffs overlooking the coast-line. I’m thrilled at the prospect of having that intimate moment with FI; with having that experience to ourselves, and then being able to celebrate with everyone else a month or two later. I’ll still get to wear my dress, so no worries there, and we’ll likely get a photographer so others can see it later.
I woke up this morning feeling like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, so I think that’s a good sign. I know there will still be the logistics of coordinating the 6 day event, but since there’s not a formal wedding taking place, there are far fewer details to concern myself with. Yay for less planning!