Post # 1
So I have a 6 week old daughter. And up until a week ago the dogs have adjusted fabulously to having her home. We have 2 dogs. Just last week I noticed one of the dogs had peed in my daughter’s room, right next to her crib. Figured perhaps I didn’t let him out soon enough, and called it a fluke. Now he did it again, and just after I had let him outside! I know it’s the male dog. He is about 7 years old, and prior to this past week NEVER has accidents in the house. The only time he has had an accident is if we visit a new home, and it’s like he marks his territory. Now that this has happened twice in our own house, and only in my daughter’s room I’m beginning to think he is having jealousy issues. Has anyone run into this before?? What did you do to get it to stop??
Post # 3
One of our dogs did a similar thing. Darling Husband had left one of DS’s baby blankets on the floor in his nursery and one of the dogs felt it was appropriate to poop on the blanket. We went back to not allowing the dogs into the nursery unless invited, and basically, the invitation was revoked for another few weeks and then slowly, under supervision only were the dogs allowed back in the nursery. Unless we are in there, they are not allowed in there.
Post # 4
My mom tells the story about the cat that she had before my sister was born- went into the nursery and pooped under the crib. When my mom scolded it, it looked at her as if “Why are you blaming me- it was that baby who did it!”
Animals do have jealous issues. I agree with PP about not allowing the dog in the nursery unless invited in with you.
Post # 5
My first thought when reading this was that he’s marking his territory/caliming that the baby is his and no other dogs can have her. Like a protection thing. Not that it helps, but it seems to me like a sweet thing (as sweet as indoor pee can be!)
Post # 6
As a PP said I would reclaim the crib and all of babies things are not to be touched by both dogs!
Once they learn the baby and the baby’s stuff then you can slowly allow them back in (if it all) under supervision!
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Post # 8
It sounds like 2 things, he marked his spot, but also they will continue to go in the SAME spot until he is broken of that. This happened with our MALE as well. Anytime you introduce anxiety or stress or something new, higher anxiety dogs are going to react.
We had put our house up for sale and had a lot of showings, so we were constantly relocating our dogs to my parents for the showings. This caused a lot of unease with our male dog, and we noticed he was now going upstairs in the bathroom and going the bathroom. He never goes upstairs for anything or even to this day goes upstairs, unless he is feeling stressed. However, he got into a habit even without feeling stressed of going up there everyday, we finally had to block the upstairs off, we did this for about 3 weeks and it totally broke him of the habit.
I do forsee him doing something similar when the baby comes in a month though, we will just have to be block the upstairs again.
Post # 9
I looked through jjomma’s link, and this is the one that really stood out to me that I think set a good standard in our house:
2) Do not ignore your dog during routine interaction with the baby. For example: If you are bathing the baby and your dog follows you or comes in a little later, do not chase him/her away. If you are feeding the baby allow the dog to sit next to you and as you feed (or wash) the baby talk to the dog, let him/her know what a GOOD DOG he/she is. As long as the dog is behaving let him/her be a part of the activity. If the dog misbehaves then make the necessary correction and continue on. Remember to be PATIENT and CONSISTENT.
Post # 10
We made an effort to make the dog feel “included.” (For lack of a better word)
He’d come sit with us for bathtime, naptime, feedings, etc., and we tried to pet him while we were also paying attention to the baby, so he didn’t feel excluded. Now he alternates between being interested in the baby (in a totally appropriate way) and ignoring the baby.
Post # 11
We had an issue of one of our dogs pooping in the house after the baby was born. Not sure exactly what it was but it stopped now and baby and dogs are friends.
Post # 12
Wow. Thanks everyone for the great advice! We have been including the dogs in all regular activity. I will definitely be keeping the door to the nursery closed now to see if that helps. He hasn’t done anything in the play room (where we primarily spend our days)…so I will keep an eye on that. I’m not sure what’s going on here, but I certainly hope it stops soon!
@prettylizy Great reframe! I always like positive thinking!!