- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
FH have discussed this a lot over the past week and I think we’ve finally set up a good plan against any drama or craziness his family could dish out. Basically, we know we’re going to go through awkward hell with them either way so we tried to pick a plan and stick to it that will be less stressful on us both.
In regards to their asking when to come…. we are going to leave it open ended but suggest they come down the day of to spend as little money on a hotel, etc and because every job is already set pre-wedding with my family or my mom’s friends. We’re all covered. All we need them to do is show up that evening and help out afterwards.
For a rehearsal dinner (which they have not comitted to and are being ridiculous to get an answer out of)… we are just going to say, in light of not being able to get into our venue until 5 the day before, we will have no time for a sit-down dinner so FH and I have opted to spend the evening quiety by ourselves after set up and make a late dinner date for just the two of us. That way we don’t have to hear them throwing a fit about money, although it’s not an issue for them, it’s something they always go back to because they never spend money on FH.
Yeah, I know we’re asking for hell. BUT…. in the debate to follow up with them about a dinner or not, I found out from my mom that my dad has major problems with his famiyl due to the way they’ve treated us. He and my mom do not want to sit down with them to dinner, neither will they welcome FH’s family to my home in any way. I understand and would not ask them to do this. My mom’s plan is to help us have a quiet dinner just the two of us, then we can come back to my parent’s house for wine, etc afterwards and to see my grandparents who speak only spanish and i haven’t seen in years. Of course FH’s family will know nothing of this but even if they find out we could care less. We want to spend the night with my family and his friends and people who love us and are happy.
I’m also requesting that they do not wear black because I know they’d all have to go out and get something different than what my family will be wearing. Also, we are seating them behind ME… our wedding is already unconventional and no one will be sitting where they ‘should’ be. I don’t want to see them through the ceremony because I know it may throw me off when I want to focus on the moment.
During the reception my plan is to have a rockin’ party 😉 and crank up the music and dance the night away. I am not seating them anywhere near us, instead we are sitting close to friends. And obviously they will not be near my family either since my parents are probably more against them than I am.
There is one mic and I’m having my best friend make a speech and then guard it with her life. There’s no way they can say anything to us or about us that night.
All in all, I have to say this is probably the best plan we could come up with. After deciding all this with FH I feel better and know I can enjoy the week as it goes by and the evening with my husband/our friends with as little drama as possible from the peanut gallery.
I can’t wait for the day to come as it’s truely OUR day… 🙂 I can’t wait to see their faces as I enter the room, I can’t wait to see them again when we play our hip ‘satan’ music in english and spanish, I can’t wait to be surrounded by friends and professors and my own family that night. I’m excited! Right now i dont care what they say or do. This is happening and I laugh how it must be killing them they cannot manipulate the evening in any way.