Post # 1
I accidentally posted this in the wrong place the first time, so I’m repositing in the “waiting” board.
Oh God Girls…. through all of this waiting, one reason I’ve been willing to KEEP waiting is because I thought he asked my dad for permission back in October. So anytime I freak out about waiting, I reminded myself that he’d asked my dad and that meant he was serious, and just wait!!
Yesterday, my mom asked if we were going to ever get engaged. I told my mom that I thought Boyfriend or Best Friend had already talked to my dad. She said “no.”
So, I had a little breakdown last night with SO, even though I promised myself at the beginning of April that I wasn’t going to say anything for 2 months and give SO a chance to “surprise me” as he states he wants to. Couldn’t help it, I brought it up last night.
He was very sweet and looked like he had a secret and told me I wouldn’t be waiting much longer. I did not tell him that I knew he hadn’t asked my dad yet. It just makes me worry that he’s not serious.
He doesn’t have to ask my dad by the way. I think it would be nice and I thought he had… but it’s not a requirement. It scares me that he hasn’t!!
Post # 3
Well, I actually was waiting for my Fiance to ask my dad, and he didn’t until the night after we were engaged. We had a nice dinner at my parents’, and he pulled my dad aside and said he wanted to pop the question when he did, and didn’t have time to catch my dad. So he asked permission there. Easy peasy!
I don’t think all men ask the woman’s father…it’s really old fashioned, and he may have just not known to do it!
He’ll do it when he’s ready 🙂 no worries!
Post # 4
awww. I’m sorry you’re having a rough time, but I’m glad you got the opportunity to talk to him about it!
I actually told my SO NOT to ask my Dad. My father is a little bit of a jerk (in a way where he thinks he’s being totally funny. NOT the case!), and though he like SO, also likes to mess with guys his daughters are dating. He told my brother in law who lived out of state that he “needed to think about it” and then became unreachable by phone for nearly a month. Then when my brother in law finally saw him again and brought it up my dad was like “ooooh riighhht!! I thought I told you that was fine. yeah sure.” I told my SO, “don’t let that happen to you. I promise, my dad will just be stoked that his last single daughter isn’t going to be shacking up with her boyfriend anymore.” lol.
Anyhow, it seems like you’re guy has a plan up hid sleeve perhaps. I’d give it a few more months to play out. You don’t want to ruin his suprise!
Post # 5
My biggest problem with this is that we’ve had this conversation before… the “I won’t be waiting long” conversation and he’s had the “I’ve got a secret,” look before. The problem always was that I had meltdowns and didn’t trust him and so (according to him) it put the engagement off.
I’d like to believe his sheepish smile, and the “i’ve got a secret” look, and when he sooooo sincerely says, “you won’t be waiting long,” but we’ve had this discussion, and still, no proposal…..
I keep hoping that it really is that I’ve spoiled the surprise and it gets put off… but after awhile you start to wonder, you know….
Post # 6
my fiance didnt ask my dad til 2 days before he proposed! dont fret it will happen!! or maybe he already has but your mom just said he hasnt!!! 😉
Post # 7
My man was going to ask my Dad over Easter 🙂 he said they had a great time but he didn’t feel like he had the right opportunity, but he feels confident about it and is just going to call my Dad right before he does it…so maybe that’s what yours is doing too! That way it’s a big surprise for everyone, very cute!
Post # 8
My fiance took my dad out golfing and asked him while they were having beers afterwords. He then came home and proceeded to ask me to marry him about 30 minutes after talking to my dad. Just because he hasn’t asked your dad doesn’t mean he won’t ask you soon.
Post # 9
The man said he will ask allow him to do so on his own timing. You want HIM to do it and not regret it because your pushing him. Give him time. He said it won’t be long now. Trust him and step back. It will be okay. Let that man be a man.
Post # 10
Another thought: maybe he told your mom and dad not to tell you he asked.
Post # 11
my fiance called my mom on the way to where he was gonna propose lol. we stopped cus i really had to pee and he did while i was in the bathroom. about 6 hours later i had a pretty new sparkly!
Post # 12
Has he actually done anything to make you not trust him? Cause it seems like if you’ve had multiple breakdowns, etc. that maybe this is about something more than just getting married. If there hasn’t been anything in the past, then maybe you need to work on why you are so worried about him. Good luck! I know waiting is the hardest part. I actually pretty much proposed to my fiance because I hate the waiting part 🙂