- 2 years ago
We have been together for 2.5 years and we just got our own place (we lived with his parents for about a year) and we are 26 and 29(him).
A couple of months ago he told me that by the middle of 2018 we will be engaged and given that we just got our own place I figured it could be Vday.
I didn’t hype myself up, but I did hope it would happen. 🙂 I even had a dream that he gave me a beautiful ring the night before, and woke up on Vday hopeful and in love.
He called me during our work lunch breaks to let me know he’s just realised what day is it, he has completely forgotten, do I want to go out for dinner?
I told him we can stay home and cook and save some money since we had a lot of expenses moving out (we had to buy furniture, appliances, everything.) I told him I just want us together and happy in our new place.
I still got him chocolates and a card and he didn’t even pick me up a card, let alone a ring.
I know he loves me, and he shows it every day, and I know he’s been busy and we spent a lot of money as it is, but I just feel a bit down that he didn’t even think to pick me up a card or chocolates on his way home from work that night given that he realised what day it was during his lunch break.
I could see he felt bad but I hugged him and told him I know he has been busy and it’s not a big deal, he’s a great partner the other 364 days of the year, which IS true.
I had a nice shower before bed and tried to make a move to spice up the otherwise regular night and he was basically too tired to function. We haven’t been intimate in about a week and it’s usually once a week anyway.
He called me on my lunch break today and he could tell from my voice that something was up but I said I was tired and my morning at work wasnt great, which isn’t a lie. He text me at the end of his lunch break to tell me he loves me and that he hopes my afternoon is better than my morning.
Am I being silly? I have made it clear for the past 6 months (at the very least) that I am ready for the commitment and he says he wants to/will, but then I don’t see any improvement, if that makes sense.
Sorry for the rant, I don’t want to discuss it with anyone b/c it’s a little embaressing.