(Closed) I thought he would propose tonight…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
6331 posts
Bee Keeper

Oh, no! What happened? I’ll bet he’s planning something even more wonderful than what you had pictured. It will be ok. Keep on keepin’ on!

ADDENDUM: If it makes you feel better, I wasn’t sure if DH was going to propose on our one year dating anniversary. We went ring shopping that day, and he planned a really romantic, sentimental night. He didn’t propose, but everything else about the day was so wonderful that I didn’t mind. 

Post # 3
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yup! Twice. It SUCKED. But when he did propose, it was awesome & I was very surprised & excited. 

First time we were going to hang out and my friends (including my bestie who knew of his plans in detail) told me a few days ahead of time to get my nails done for pictures. I was like OMG OMG it’s coming! Yeah, no. He didn’t propose. She’d done that to throw me off. :/ 

Second time we were going for a walk in a beautiful park and he had specifically mentioned proposing in a park & I was expecting it & it just wasn’t happening. Eventually we sat on a bench & I actually asked “So, do you have any questions for me?” LMAO. He was like “uhh…what?” Yeah, when I left (alone) I was crying. 🙁 

Later that same day (after the park) he hinted that he was planning to propose the following weekend & wanted us to have a picnic at the park. He actually texted me & included the words “hint, hint!” That evening we were hanging out and my back was to him and he said “So, I have a question to ask you.” And I was *so* annoyed because I thought he was just messing with me and I turned around like “WHAT.” and he had the ring & proposed & was very sweet. I asked him about 9 million times if he was serious & then jumped around and was very excited. 

It will happen eventually, but I know it sucks when you think it will & it doesn’t. (And it seems like most people – at least people whove never been in this position – don’t understand what the big deal is. My bestie was so annoyed with me for my anxiety about it!) 

Post # 4
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I was kind of in a similar situation. My guy and I went ring shopping in August, our 1 yr anniversary was in September. We went out to a fancy dinner. No proposal. 

So then, I figured it would be on our trip to hawaii in November. The first day, we get into a fight(over directions! Lol) and I bawl my eyes out and tell him there’s no point being in a relationship if you can’t be nice when were traveling! So then he didn’t propose that day. Or the next day. Or the day after. 

Then finally, near the end of our trip, he did. I was so relieved! Lol. 

Tell us your story! I’m sure it’s coming soon! 

Post # 5
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I was just telling my fiance how glad I was that we could do fun stuff this summer without my always wondering if he was going to propose. There was one night last summer when he surprised me with a sunset picnic and I was sure it was going to be the night. I ended up being SO upset when it didn’t happen that night.  Hang in there – the waiting game is tough, but you will get through it!

Post # 6
988 posts
Busy bee

I found the receipt for my ring in January 1999. We had been together for 3 years and living together. Over the next year there were many times where I thought DH would propose.

1) At a hockey game on the light up board above the scoreboard it said “Pooh, Marry Me? Love Tigger” This was our nicknames at the time. Both me and my bestie looked over at DH expecting him to get down on one knee. He shrugged and said sorry, it’s not me babe.

2) At a local baseball game, the camera showed our area. Then the words “Marry Me?” scrolled across. It was the girl in front of us.

3) At Yankee Stadium, they played our song (at the time). Bon Jovi – Bed of Roses. And they announced someone is getting a rock tonight. The screen scanned the crowd, passing our area several times. It stopped in another section. We were with his Mom and her partner.

4) World Series in New York with a family friend. Still no ring for me.

5) Thanksgiving with my family, my brother and his girlfriend were there too. Nope, still no ring.

6) Christmas with his family, still no ring.

7) Millennium New Years Eve in Toronto at my aunt’s pub with a lot of my family there. We rung in the New Year but no ring.

By this time, I had given up on him. Finally, in May, we were getting ready to go to breakfast with friends. He was in his boxers and asked me to sit on the bed. I kept telling him to get dressed or we would be late. Finally he yells from the other room to close my eyes. I did and when I opened them, he was on one knee with my ring. I asked him after we were married why he chose to ask me then. He simply said “Because you weren’t expecting it.” I just rolled my eyes at him and asked if he knew how crazy he drove me. He laughed saying “Exactly! ” We have been together for 19 years and will be married for 13 years this July. And he still drives me nuts!! Lol.

Post # 7
2922 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

There were a couple of times he was getting emotional and saying sweet things and I thought maybe he would ask but turns out he was just kinda drunk and mushy, lol. Still waiting!

Post # 8
5304 posts
Bee Keeper

Last summer. My SO surprised me with a weekend away at a cottage belonging to a friend of his. I initially hadn’t been thinking “Oh this weekend he’s going to propose to me!” – but when we were literally walking hand in hand along the beach, I thought what a perfect place it would be to propose. My SO didn’t propose, but he went out of his way to create a lovely weekend for us, cooking me a special dinner, romantic evening with wine by a bonfire. It’s a beautiful memory though, so what I’m truly thankful for is that I didn’t spoil it!


Post # 9
862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Yup! We went to Disney World last year, my absolute favorite place in the world. His parents even decided last minute to come with us. I was POSITIVE it was going to happen during the trip. One night we were watching the fireworks at Magic Kingdom and his mom was with us, but then she randomly just decided to leave. My heart was POUNDING the entire time, because I was so sure it was going to happen then. Butttt, it didn’t. It didn’t happen on the trip either! Lol, but it was an amazing time. I’m sure when it does happen I’ll be completely surprised!!

Post # 10
1289 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Grr, so many times.

We just celebrated our 5th anniversary together – no ring.

I just turned 26 years old and had surprise party – no ring.

He was getting all emotional one night – no ring.

Romantic getaway (champagne, chocolate covered strawberries, rose petals on bed) – no ring.

Family party where all his relatives from so many differnt states flew in – no ring.


Seriously getting tired of this. I feel like he is not using the perfect opportunities ugh.

Post # 11
1186 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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sylwia212: Lol, sign me up for your non-proposals, my proposal was less romantic that your getaway! Enjoy it!

Post # 12
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We went abroad on a big vacation last summer to where my SO grew up. We had had a big talk a few months earlier and he had told me he wouldn’t make me wait long. 

We were climbing up the hill overlooking the ocean on our second day and he was being funny. My heart started racing as we neared the top. Nothing happened. Luckily I was able to push it out of my mind. 

For the record, he still hasn’t proposed. Just goes to show that a man’s definition of “not long” is very different. Lol

Post # 13
235 posts
Helper bee

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redheadbee77:  I honestly thought I was going to get engaged this weekend too!  Not to be apparently.  I haven’t even been waiting that long, in the grand scheme of things. We first went ring shopping together in February, but I think the problem is now I KNOW he’s bought the ring, so I am just so antsy!  I see a proposal at every turn!   

Post # 14
2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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redheadbee77:  I have noticed that this is really common on these boards, that one person thinks some place is the “perfect place” to propose and it doesn’t happen. My guess is the other person has something different in mind already.  Maybe they think the location is too obvious or cheesy?

Post # 15
1265 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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redheadbee77:  2014 NYE, my older sister told me that he was ring shopping and wanted to do a grand proposal andddd… Nothing. 

He wound up proposing on a random Thursday at home and I wasn’t expecting it at all. My hair was a mess and he had just dropped the kids off at football practice. It was so random and so perfectly fitting for us. Even better, it was a surprise and I *love* surprises, but don’t like to be the center of attention, so the public proposal would have embarrassed me. 

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