I went through the roller coaster with our proposal. I was hoping it would be on our 7 year anniversary but he informed me about a month earlier that HE planned his brother’s bachelor party for that day. I was so mad! He said it was the only weekend the boat (fishing trip) was available that worked with everyone’s schedules. We got in a huge argument ending with me saying “Well, I was kind of hoping something BIG would happen on our 7 year anniversary… guess not! Guess a damn bachelor party is more important, I know where your head is at now!”
The week before our anniversary he said he felt bad and asked if we could celebrate that weekend instead. I said sure, and asked (hopefully) if he had anything planned and he said no, we could go to dinner or whatever I wanted to do. Again, hopes of an engagement were killed.
Then, that wednesday he was stressed at work and said “Let’s just go to the beach this weekend? I need to get away and it’ll be nice for our anniversary”. I was so excited and thought maybe he would propose… although, since it wasn’t a planned trip I wasn’t getting my hopes up.
The night before we were leaving for the beach I was trying to be playful and said “Don’t go getting the 7 year itch on me *wink wink*”. And he looked at me dead-pan, super serious, and a little sad saying “I won’t baby but you can’t start pressuring me for an engagement. You know I’d love to marry you today but we just can’t right now. It’s probably going to be a couple years”
UGH, I was CRUSHED.
That morning he told me to go take a shower and he would pack up the truck… being so pissed I wasn’t getting engaged I said ‘why bother showering? It’s not like I have to look good for anything. We’re going to the beach, I’ll shower tonight at the hotel”.
The whole drive down to the beach my resentment kept growing. “He hung out with my dad earlier this week, he could’ve asked his permission! 7 years, what is he waiting for?? Another 2 years I will be 27 add on the planning time I’ll be 29 when I get married, he knew I wanted kids before I’m 30, guess that’s not happening either!!” I was texting my friend the whole way down how I’m going to be a ‘girlfriend forever’. There was even a video on facebook of another couple getting engaged and I threw that in his face.
Once at the beach, I kept bringing it up “Remember that couple that got engaged last year we came down the shore? The plane that flew over the coast with the ‘will you marry me?’ sign?? That was nice” and basically was just making myself more and more depressed.
I finally had a couple drinks and let it go. I was fishing and enjoying myself and completely forgot about the whole thing (especially when I caught the biggest fish of my life!). THAT’S when he got on one knee and pulled out a ring.
Definitely wish I listened to him when he told me to take a shower that morning…. lol. But had he not asked….. it would have been devastating!!!! I feel for you OP, I really do. But like my man, your SO may just want to completely throw you off guard. What my Fiance did was totally cruel but seriously, I wouldn’t have wanted a proposal that I knew was coming.