(Closed) I thought he would propose tonight…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

haha!! I remember these times, I was getting so anxious… it was ridiculuous. He proposed in the middle of a staring contest in a cave on top  of a mountain. I closed my eyes ( 1,2,3) and a ring was in front of my face! My reaction was so much different than I thought, I was SOOO caught off guard. ” WHAT IS THAT!!??”” IS THIS A JOKE” It was perfect in a strange way, . Enjoy the time NOW and dont let the thoughts consume you.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I feel your disappointment, although I am now engaged, last year I was seriously waiting. We had booked a weekend away in Paris last September, and around May/June we were talking about rings and he was dropping mad hints about being away for the proposal, we were discussing shopping for rings together after he proposed (as I am picky), however his argument against this was ‘what if we are far away from a trusted jewellery shop as I know you’re impatient (so only logical explanation would be Paris)…the whole time in Paris I was excited waiting for it to happen…on top of the Eiffel tower at night etc. did he propose no…3 weeks later he did at a restaurant ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

I do not know how you ladies deal with these situations with grace!! Props to all of you for keeping your cool (or not, I don’t know that I would!)!!

Post # 19
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Busy bee

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geekgirl84:  I had to seriously vent to my friends about the missed opportunities or I wouId have said something to him. I didn’t want DH to know I found the receipt. (His fault for putting it in the sock drawer). It drove me up the wall knowing he had it! When he finally did, my friends all said to me about f’n time. Lol.

Post # 20
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Worker bee

Between Christmas, Valentine’s Day, and my April birthday.. I thought I had a chance during all three of those. I even moved in in January so was REALLY hoping to have a proposal before then.

But Christmas, he bought me a pistol. Which is AWESOME in every way and was very expensive. I do love it because now we can shoot together.

Valentine’s Day he handed me a bag from Kay’s!!! It was an open heart necklace. The 4th one he’s given me. Which is also incredibly sweet because he had been a very long time since he’d bought me jewelry in general. And it’s gorgeous.

My birthday he actually PLANNED a dinner. He told me the date and that we were going to Indy (couple hours away from where we are) and that he had reservations at 6. We literally drove to Indy and had dinner and came back ha… but again.. it was very sweet of him to get reservations and plan that. He’s never been much of a romantic nor planner.

Sooooo.. still waiting. It’s getting hard because my friends are all getting married this year. It’s hard to be happy and listen to all their planning mumbo jumbo. Buuuuuuuuuuuuut he is a great, GREAT guy who treats me wonderfully and.. he is worth the wait to me! I know he wants to marry me and I feel that he has a plan. Just wish he’d do it already!!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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Taiki:  Haha Oh I don’t care about romantic proposal at all. He can do it at home in bed if he wants to.

Today he mentioned that we should take a hike again soon so maybe that.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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redheadbee77:  I’m sorry you feel so upset! oh yes, Ive been there couple of times and ended up feeling the same as you! It’s hard to just forget, but you will get your proposal, so try and keep your spirits up! 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

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ali0118:  Love this story!!!!

 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

I thought my boyfriend would propose Friday night.  We went to our favorite restaurant for dinner.  Sat on the patio and had a glass of wine and then went for a walk under the stars on the golf course at the country club. He told me how much he loved me, hugged me, etc. Nada..nothing…zilch! lol

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Haha. I have been there… About a month before Christmas, I gave my SO a list of rings that I wanted (all were affordable and under 2k). He told me I wouldn’t be getting one for Christmas, but I foolishly told myself otherwise. We spent Christmas at his parents house. When we opened gifts, his mom indicated there was a special one for me and to save it for last. When the moment came, he sent me on an elaborate scavenger hunt. I was shaking the whole time and was thinking “This is it!”.

 

……..It turned out to be a plant……

At least it’s a pretty plant. -sigh-

Post # 26
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Helper bee

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WiredOwl:  I will admit that your story made me laugh out loud. That is such a typical male thing to do – wonder if he knew how much it would frustrate you. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I went through the roller coaster with our proposal. I was hoping it would be on our 7  year anniversary but he informed me about a month earlier that HE planned his brother’s bachelor party for that day. I was so mad! He said it was the only weekend the boat (fishing trip) was available that worked with everyone’s schedules. We got in a huge argument ending with me saying “Well, I was kind of hoping something BIG would happen on our 7 year anniversary… guess not! Guess a damn bachelor party is more important, I know where your head is at now!”

The week before our anniversary he said he felt bad and asked if we could celebrate that weekend instead. I said sure, and asked (hopefully) if he had anything planned and he said no, we could go to dinner or whatever I wanted to do. Again, hopes of an engagement were killed.

Then, that wednesday he was stressed at work and said “Let’s just go to the beach this weekend? I need to get away and it’ll be nice for our anniversary”. I was so excited and thought maybe he would propose… although, since it wasn’t a planned trip I wasn’t getting my hopes up.

The night before we were leaving for the beach I was trying to be playful and said “Don’t go getting the 7 year itch on me *wink wink*”. And he looked at me dead-pan, super serious, and a little sad saying “I won’t baby but you can’t start pressuring me for an engagement. You know I’d love to marry you today but we just can’t right now. It’s probably going to be a couple years”

UGH, I was CRUSHED.

That morning he told me to go take a shower and he would pack up the truck… being so pissed I wasn’t getting engaged I said ‘why bother showering? It’s not like I have to look good for anything. We’re going to the beach, I’ll shower tonight at the hotel”.

The whole drive down to the beach my resentment kept growing. “He hung out with my dad earlier this week, he could’ve asked his permission! 7 years, what is he waiting for?? Another 2 years I will be 27 add on the planning time I’ll be 29 when I get married, he knew I wanted kids before I’m 30, guess that’s not happening either!!” I was texting my friend the whole way down how I’m going to be a ‘girlfriend forever’. There was even a video on facebook of another couple getting engaged and I threw that in his face.

Once at the beach, I kept bringing it up “Remember that couple that got engaged last year we came down the shore? The plane that flew over the coast with the ‘will you marry me?’ sign?? That was nice” and basically was just making myself more and more depressed.

I finally had a couple drinks and let it go. I was fishing and enjoying myself and completely forgot about the whole thing (especially when I caught the biggest fish of my life!). THAT’S when he got on one knee and pulled out a ring.

Definitely wish I listened to him when he told me to take a shower that morning…. lol. But had he not asked….. it would have been devastating!!!! I feel for you OP, I really do. But like my man, your SO may just want to completely throw you off guard. What my Fiance did was totally cruel but seriously, I wouldn’t have wanted a proposal that I knew was coming.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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mghnglnn:  

Oh, no. He wouldn’t dare tease me on that subject. ๐Ÿ˜› It turned out to be his mom’s idea to hide it somewhere since they had no idea how to wrap the plant…  His whole family was coming up with clues while I was at work that day. LOL

Post # 30
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Newbee

I thought my now Fiance was going to propose twice in one day! That was an exhausting day! Hehe

First he said ‘it’s a nice day, let’s go for a walk?’ So off we went to this lovely hill that overlooks the city that we met in and had lived in for 2.5 years. When we got there the car park was shut but he really wanted to park the car somewhere else and go anyway, which set the alarm bells off!

We walked around and around and nothing happened ๐Ÿ™

After we got home he said ‘Shall I cook us a nice meal?’ And that set the alarms off again as it was quite late to be cooking dinner.

He even had a bath and a shave (which he never does at night, only during the day), so I thought my chances might be good for a proposal! 

He got out of the bath and put his bloody tracksuit bottoms on ๐Ÿ™ I knew he would never propose in his slouchy clothes!

Fast forward just under two weeks to the actual proposal, it was Election Day in the UK and he mentioned going for a walk after voting.

Remembering the false alarm walk before I was hesitant and even said ‘No, because I don’t want to get my hopes up.’ And I said ‘it’s cold anyway.’

I think he said ‘lets just do something nice, you can wear my jacket in the back…’ And the rest is history lol. 

I’d literally just shrugged off the whole idea of him proposing on that walk when he did! Just let all the tension drop from my shoulders. I do regret saying that I didn’t want to go now !

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