(Closed) I thought I want kids but I'm getting so annoyed by other peoples kids

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
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Busy Beekeeper

Every kid is annoying- except your special bundle of joy.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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theatrejulia:  This times 1,000! Once you have a baby, it’s true. Your life is turned upside down. But there is nothing sweeter than snuggling with your own baby that grew inside you. Somehow, the girly shows, the sex, the travels, it all takes a back seat for a while. But heck, I’ve always taken my kids on vacation. And if you raise them right, your own kids aren’t quite as annoying as everyone elses. Haha.

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Busy bee

I feel how you feel, everyday! I’ve made the choice not to have children and while it took awhile to get there, I know it’s the right choice for me. I don’t think I have the patience it takes. And I’m ok with that. I’m not about to have a baby just to see if I’m wrong! Having a child should be a positive event, not one of dread. Good luck!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Everybody feels this way.  Even if they don’t want to admit it.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Sometimes I see kids and I think I might want one someday but give it 5 minutes and the kid usually becomes annoying again. I think most women feel like you do right now at some point in their lives. What I’ve heard is “at some point youll feel like youre done traveling and sleeping in and you’ll want to have a baby and take your relationship to the next level”. I don’t feel like ill get tired of those things but who knows, we’re constantly changing as we grow. The thing you do know is that you’re not ready for a kid right now. Luckily, none of us know the way our stories will play out we just live day by day. Don’t let it worry you.

 

Ps. Studies show whether you choose to have kids or not have kids youll be happy with your choice so you can’t go wrong 🙂

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Busy bee

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emeraldine: I felt the same as you. when I was in my teens and 20’s, I assumed I’d have kids one day. but the closer I got to my 30s, the more I felt like I didn’t want them. plus, like you, I really don’t like being around them. 

over time my desire to have kids grew less and less. at this point, my husband and I are in our late 30s and have made the decision to not do it. it was a difficult decision, but we made that a few years ago and still feel really good about it. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

You are not alone in feeling that way at all. I’m completely on the fence about it. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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emeraldine:  I think everyone feels this way. My friends who have kids are still annoyed by other’s kids. It’s just the way it is. Don’t get me wrong, if you don’t want kids there is NOTHING wrong with that. Plenty of people don’t want kids. But I wouldn’t discredit having kids if you want them simply because you worry that you don’t like other kids.

I’m basically the only one in my circle without kids, while my firends kids range in age from infants – 10. I love their kids dearly and spend A LOT of time with them, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t find them annoying sometimes. Heck, their own parents get annoyed by them sometimes. You wouldn’t be human if you found every annoying thing about kids to be cute. 😉

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I definitely feel like that…and I’m pregnant! I think that everyone feels like that about other people’s kids (and even more so before you have your own kids). Heck I feel that way about other people’s pets too…but I am OBSESSED with my own sweet pup. 

I have a few friends that are child free by choice, and I 100% support and understand their decision because I could have possibly gone that way if I married someone who wasn’t sure about kids. As it is though, I think my husband is going to be a great and super supportive father, and without that kind of person I wouldn’t be able to do it. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I find you pretty much normal.  I remember being just like you when I was your age and started dating DH.  I’m still not crazy about kids and steer clear of them in the subway lol.  But God, I love my kids with all my heart.  They’re 21 and 24 now but we’ve always shared this incredible bond and to this day spend tons of time together.

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Sugar bee

I lovey kids to death but even they annoy the crap out of me.Kids annoy.Thats what they do.I wasn’t good with kids either and didn’t particularly want any before I became pregnant.Honestly,I will not trade them for anything but being a parent is hard as hell.The only reason why I won’t trade them is because I love them more than myself.But,I really think the motherhood thong is very overrated in my opinion.

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Sugar bee

‘love my kids to death…’

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Bumble bee

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WillowBee33:  I feel the same way. I’m 39 and I’ve felt this way for as long as I can remember.

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Helper bee

I feel the EXACT same way you do! I always had an urge to be a mother until my husband and I got married and now neither of us have a desire for kids right now. (I’m 24 he’s 29). We always say someday but we love traveling and doing WHATEVER we want to do at the drop of a dime and really I don’t know if either of us will ever want to give this lifestyle up. This year alone we have seven vacations planned, that would never happen with a baby or toddler. 

Also, we have lots of friends and family with children and while everyone says you always love your child unconditionally, which I know they all absolutely do, almost every single one of them have said (candidly) if they could do it all over they would strongly reconsider having children. 

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