(Closed) I thought I wanted a big ring..But when I tried it on..not so much? (pic incl)

posted 11 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you get a smaller ring than you can afford (because you like it more)?



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  • Post # 3
    1039 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    That ring is gorgeous!!! I don’t think it’s weird at all. I always thought I wanted a smaller ring, then I fell in love with the Tiffany Legacy. Fiance ended up having GoodOldGold make it, which I love b/c he got to create it himself, but he also paid 1/3 the price he would have at Tiffany. (Oh and I told him if he got Tiffany’s I’d say no b/c he’d be crazy for spending that much LOL … I was totally kidding, but yeah)

    Anyways, long story short, I ended up with a 1.5ct, with side stones, it’s just under 2 total ct, and I couldn’t be happier. And now that I have my ring, I can’t remember why I wanted anything else ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @SecretBee23:  I was the same way!!  Before I got engaged, I always DREAMED of this Simon G ring…

    and then I tried it on just for kicks the one day, and it looked RIDICULOUS.  It basically took up the entire space between my knuckles.  My fiance and I never talked about rings, but he ended up surprising me with this one, and i LOVE it.  Excuse the gold sizer on the side…this photo was taken before I had it sized and the jeweler thought I would lose it, so they put a big metal sizer on it until the new one came in haha.

    Post # 5
    297 posts
    Helper bee

    I totally understand this.  I’ve had tons of ring drama this year, ever since I had the choice for an upgrade from my flat, antique ring that never got in the way for 11 years.  I got a 1.5 solitaire that I loved, loved, loved. But, guess what? After wearing it the past month, while I love it, it drove me crazy. Pulling my hair out, I worried I would scratch my son, it just got in the way…  So, I just turned this 3 stone anniversary ring I got made last year (not really to my liking at the time) into one that I love, just yesterday actually.  It’s a total of .48 carats (3 .16 round stones) and I love it!  It’s not big but it’s comfy, doesn’t get in the way and I’m just so happy!  So, I suggest go for what you want, even if it’s smaller.  And if you are not a big jewelry person (I am, which is why I found it so weird that I prefer a smaller ring since I love huge stones), it sounds like you want something that is more simpler that you can be comfortable in every day.  I’ve attached a pic of my ring. It’s nothing fancy at all but sparkles like crazy and is just so comfy, I barely notice it on my hand.  Best of luck to you!  Oh yeah, and now, I’m only wearing the solitaire on special occasions.  Thank goodness for us, the stone was a family stone we inherited or my hubby would not have been happy that I’m not wearing that big ring!

    Post # 6
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am going through this with the wedding band.  I have super long ET like fingers.  I do not intend to wear my engagement ring once we are married so i thought i wanted a wide band. 

    After wearing my 3.5mm wide engagement ring, i decided that’s too big.  I’m looking for a dainty simple band no wider than 2mm.

    i <3 Penneys.

    Post # 7
    3578 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Gorgeous ring!


    I was in the same boat. I thought I wanted a 1 ct center diamond. When I tried on a few rings that size, they didn’t look right on my hand. So I started looking in the .5-.75 ct range, I ended up getting a .61 ct center stone.

    Post # 8
    3138 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

    When DH and I looked at rings, I knew exactly what style I wanted. I mean EXACTLY. I wanted the three-stone emerald cut prong setting with baguets channel set going down the sides.  I also knew it was going to be hard to find.

    The first place we went was Zales, where I knew they had it, because my mom and I had looked at a couple there about a month earlier… Well, they had it, but it was 3 carats–absolutely gorgeous, absolutely what I wanted, absolutely too expensive and too big for my hand!  DH looked like a deer in the headlights when they said it was on sale for 10 grand. Unfortunately, they didn’t have a smaller carat size in stock.

    The plus side of showing him such an expensive ring first thing was any other ring we looked at was reasonable in comparison! 

    Anyway, we went to several other stores and couldn’t find what I wanted. Finally, we found one that had the exact style I wanted in a 1 carat. The only thing was, I didn’t think there was enough definition between the size of the center diamond and the two side diamonds. So we bought the ring and ordered a larger center stone for it.

    While we were waiting for the larger stone to arrive, I called the jewelry store and asked if they could get a 2 carat version in of my ring. I wanted to make sure that I wouldn’t later regret getting the 1 carat version…

    Well, on the day my diamond arrived, I tried on the 2 carat version and my ring. I liked the larger one better on its own, but with wedding bands, I didn’t like it. So we kept my original 1 carat ring and switched out the center stone just like we planned when we first bought it.

    I am thrilled with the ring I got. I’ve never ever ever experienced ring envy–even though I have seen a lot of amazing rings here on the Bee. It is exactly, absolutely, without a doubt the perfect ring for me and I’m glad I got the smaller size, because I was able to get a more elaborate wedding band to go with it. 

    Just looking at this picture, I realize my e-ring wasn’t sitting properly in my wedding band for the picture… Hmmmm…. Oh well… It sits in it properly when it’s on my finger! LOL!

    Post # 9
    16 posts
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I have pretty small fingers (4.5-4.75 ring size), so big diamonds look absolutely ridiculous on me.  And when my fiance were looking a rings pre-engagement, we were repeatedly drawn to “smaller” diamonds.  For whatever reason, they looked more intriguing and beautiful to us.  I’m so happy with my solitaire ring; I still get distracted by it and think “oooo shiny!”

    Post # 10
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think it has a lot to do with your finger size/length, as far as what looks reasonable.  I thought I wanted a carat, but that Fiance would only be able to afford a half carat.  He ended up getting me a 0.71 carat, and it’s absolutely perfect.  My fingers are size 4.75, so it actually looks pretty substantial on me, and I think anything bigger would be overpowering.  It’s the only ring I’ve ever tried on though, so who knows.

    Post # 11
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I never really thought about size of a diamond, until I got one, my fiance and I did a ‘quick look’ at erings in BJ’s one day.  He kept talking about the heart shape diamonds but I thought I wanted a cushion in a halo.  I would drool over the girls that I saw with a cushion in a halo.  Well, come to find out, my fiance had a diamond already, his grandmothers Old English Cut .62ct round.  Which is the perfect size for my petite hands.  It was in a plain setting so he had it put in a setting with .25 diamonds on the band, no halo.  Now I drool over my ring!  And as much as I love the halo look (still) I’m beyond happy with my ring, I love the simplicity look of my ring and I’m in love with the wedding bands I’m getting! 


    Post # 12
    208 posts
    Helper bee

    What a gorgeous ring!! I like everything about it.  I tried on a very similar ring and it was one of my “finalists” ๐Ÿ˜‰

    I went through the very same thoughts as you when SO and I were shopping for an engagement ring a few weeks ago. I can totally relate when you say “..they just don’t look right on me!”

    The different jewellers were getting me to try on all these big rocks, beautiful I must say, but not so much on my hand.  The big “tall” ones just didn’t feel right for me.  It actually took a couple of weeks, and a few trips to different jewellers, and lots of trying on, before we made a decision. To make a long story short, we finally chose a beautiful .55 crt solitaire diamond on a white gold band.  And it looks perfect on me!! Laughing  I feel like “me” with this ring on my finger. We ordered the ring (but I don’t have a picture) so I can’t post it here *yet*.  

    I would suggest you take your time before making a decision.  If after a few weeks and a few visits trying it on, you still LOVE this ring, then it’s obvious that it’s yours.  And if ever you decide later on that you want a bigger diamond, you can always get a bigger one on your ring for a 5 or 10-year anniversary. 

    Post # 13
    2906 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I always thought that I wanted a at least 2 carot. When I we went to try them on.. It just felt not me I ended up getting a 7/8 tw with bands its 1.5 But I couldnt picture it any different. I love my ring.

    14K White Gold 7/8 Carat t.w. Diamond Engagement Ring


    Post # 14
    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’ve never been a jewelry person either and I don’t really like the way big rings look and feel on my finger. Mine is small, simple, and I love it ๐Ÿ™‚ Go with what works for you.

    Post # 15
    208 posts
    Helper bee


    Just curious, is that your wedding band with the nice green stones on it?  What is that? I LOVE it.  Smile

    Post # 16
    3578 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @minie77 – Thanks! Yep, that is my wedding band, the green stones are green garnets.

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