Post # 1
I found a dress I loved on etsy.com. Beautiful ruching, no bling, very close fitting.
I bought it and also loved it in person. Two months ago I took it to get altered, and the first place I went the seamstress made me feel like an idiot for buying it online, kept pointing out all these flaws I couldn’t see, and insisted she would have to remake the entire bodice. For more than I paid for the dress. So I went to a second place. This guy loved my dress, thought fixing the bodice would be very simple, and gave me a reasonable quote.
Dress at tailor (I’m getting the bust taken in, but leaving the hem like that):
The problem is, like I said, I haven’t seen it in two months. And I’m not scheduled to see it for another two months (he’s holding it for me until two weeks before the wedding). Poking around on my computer I just found pictures from the first time I went dress shopping, and the first dress I fell in love with.
It looked beautiful on me. It’s probably just that the bridal shop had better lighting, but flipping back and forth all I can see are flaws in my own dress (particularly the very obvious seam in the side, which you can see a bit in the first picture). I’m suddenly freaking out that my dress won’t look professional, that I’ll be so disappointed when I get it back. I feel like one of the brides on Say Yes to the Dress, a show I’ve always hated for treating buying a wedding dress like it’s the most important decision a woman will ever make.
I don’t really know what I’m looking for in posting this, maybe just hoping that writing this out will calm me down a bit. And yes, it has calmed me quite a bit.
Post # 3
@katehh08: I think you look lovely in your dress. The hem is very unique, and I like that a lot, much more unique than the other dress you posted. I think having the bust taken in will make it look perfect.
And you’re right, it actually isn’t the most important decision you will ever make in your life. I think you made a great decision already and you will look fabulous on your big day!
Post # 4
On your wedding day, all people are going to see is a beautiful bride. They won’t be scrutinizing your dress for flaws like a seamstress would. People who aren’t in bride mode like we are won’t be looking at the seams or thinking about what other dresses you could have worn. I attended a friend’s wedding shortly before I got engaged and I can’t honestly tell you I remember anything about her dress except that it was white and strapless. 🙂
There must have been a reason why you chose this first dress originally and didn’t choose this other dress. I think you’ll be fine if you stick with your etsy dress. You’re only going to wear this dress for a few hours, so don’t turn it into a bigger deal than it really is.
Post # 5
i had major dress regret right before the wedding. I had my bridal portraits done and felt great then when I went in for my last fitting, I was devastated. When you’re hair and make-up are all done, it makes you dress 100000 times more amazing.
You’re going to look beautiful and you picked that dress for a reason. Don’t worry!!
Post # 6
@saffy: Thanks, that makes a lot of sense. One thing I didn’t even realize I love about the dress is that no one will have ever seen it before. I went to a cousin’s wedding a couple months ago and I instantly recognized her dress from David’s Bridal (I’ve spent far too much time staring at their dresses). Chances are that she’s the only one at the wedding who would recognize my dress if I got it from a major designer, but still I like that it’s unique. Also my dress cost half what hers did :p
Post # 7
@katehh08: you look lovely in your dress!
Post # 8
Can I suggest you have the seamstress make your dress a sweetheart neckline ? It looks lovely on you in second dress
Post # 9
@nativedesires: That probably would’ve been a good idea. It was so long between trying on the dresses at DB and getting my dress altered that I didn’t remember how much I liked that neckline. I didn’t even think about getting the neckline altered. Oh well, it’s probably too late now.
Post # 10
I’d keep the dress you have. The only thing I like better about the first one is the hem, and if you decided it’s the sweetheart you liked about it, you could get your dress made into a sweetheart for not too much money, I’d think. They’re both quite flattering.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@katehh08: I doubt it’s too late- call the tailor and ask him!
Post # 12
@katehh08: You should ask them if they can do it if you want it done. If your wedding is in mid april then the seamstress has it for 6 more weeks. A good seamstress can alter that neckline in like an hour probably. I’ll bet they’d do it. You could also ask to come visit your dress and try it on again.
Post # 13
To be brutally honest, I prefer the dress you tried on at the bridal salon. It’s beautiful and romantic. But it’s personal preference really – I prefer lace dresses to satin, and I dislike pick-ups and ruching! I do agree that you should consider turning the neckline into a sweetheart – I don’t think it would take too long or cost too much?
As others have said, at the end of the day – it’s just a dress for one day. And people are going to be wowed by how beautiful and happy you look on the day, not analysing the details of your dress (as we tend to do as brides).
Post # 14
To be honest too, I also prefer the dress you fitted at the bridal salon. Your figure is stunning in it and I like lace too. It looks so perfect on you (and it wasn’t even alterated). But with the alterations done on the dress you purchased this might be a different picture. I also would have the neckline made into a sweetheart; that makes you look lighter on the bust line.
People won’t see both dresses, but will only see you in your dress, so they can’t compare.
Post # 16
I also thinki making your dress a sweetheart neckline would be awesome! This dress immediately reminded me of Mikaella 1406- a very popular dress! With a sweetheart neckline, maybe even a sash wit a little bling, hair, makeup and a huge smile (you look so unthrilled in your pic!) you will look gorgeous! Alterations aren’t too late- I’m getting married just after you, my dress isn’t going to arrive in the shop until beginning of April and all alterations will be done in a week!