(Closed) I thought it was happening, …. (long)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m a little confused! Just because the pictures didn’t turn out to be engagement related doesn’t invalidate the other things you talked about. Maybe he’s planning a more low-key proposal at home or at the restaurant? He only asked you to give him a minute a few weeks ago. I doubt he would have said that if a proposal wasn’t in the works relatively soon. 

Post # 5
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8044 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

He could have said that ‘give me a minute’ thing to get you to stop talking. I hope not, but you never know. On the other hand, I agree w. Katie.. I don’t see how the photos thing makes the other things invalidated. You never know. I also think that you do need some sort of timeline. If you own a house together etc. and he still doesn’t propose in a year, then you might have problems.. but for now I would try to relax as much as you can. Hard, I know!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My SO has has the ring for over a year. I feel your pain, I do.  I just had to get the the point that eventually was enough for me, but I told him don’t expect Children or a house until then. You wanting to be married before that happens is JUST was valid as him suprising you with a proposal.

How I explained it to my SO was

Me “Can we just agree that we’re engaged and go pick out a ring?”

Him “No! That’s against my traditions and I need to do it my way”

Me “That’s how I feel about kids and a house. It doesn’t feel good when someone you love pressures you into life changing desitions. It also doesn’t feel good when the one you love doesn’t want to move on bigger moments in life with you.”

He understood. I agree to wait until he’s ready, he has to wait for his american dream until then.

Sometimes I feel like we are at an impass Undecided

Post # 8
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1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

That doesn’t necessarily mean he isn’t planning a proposal!  I waited awhile for my FI to propose.  I knew he had the ring but he was waiting for the right moment.  He proposed in Paris and it was the most romantic, perfect proposal!  Your SO is probably just waiting for the perfect moment

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